The world is full of d-bags.
They demand having it their way, regardless of your (or anyone else's) feelings.
They resort to passive aggressive comments to try and tear you down.
They're flat out just plan ole mean.
And the icing on the cake is that they actually see themselves as the center of the universe -- the world revolves around them...or at least they'd like to think so.
Here's the thing folks, when it comes to dealing with these types of people...
Don't let anyone fuck with you.
Now, I don't mean to tell you to put on this "tough guy" mantra, who's ready to raise fists the minute someone bad mouths him.
Nor am I saying that you should retaliate with any sort of bad mouthing yourself.
I mean you don't bend to the knee to them or pretend that you tolerate their shit.
You can do that in a calm way. You can do that in a lazy way.
In fact, the lazy thing is to do what you want and you certainly don't want to go along with whatever this d-bag says.
The lazy thing is to also not put in more effort than necessary. And trust me, it's a lot more effort to give a witty comeback than it is to just tell them to stop. Besides witty comebacks only lead to more drama and life of a lazy man is a drama free zone.
Stand up for yourself. But don't push the other person down so you can stand up.
Besides, that's exactly what they're doing. They're projecting their own insecurities onto others.
A controlling person feels they lack self control. An insulting person doesn't give him/herself many compliments. A rude person isn't very polite to their own mind or body.
Don't stoop down to their level. Easier said than done though, when emotions are running high and you just want to tell the person off.
Just remember you communicate a lot more confidence, strength, and maturity in remaining calm in face of conflict than you do attacking that conflict head on with some harsh words (or maybe even harsh punches).
The stronger person is not the one who shouts the loudest or hits the hardest, The stronger person is the one who stays in control of him/herself.
Of course you don't want to "control" yourself too much to the point where you hold back how you really feel.
That just leads to passive aggressiveness later down the line, with all those bottled up emotions.
You need to be aggressive without showing aggression. Make sense? In other words you need to be able to be stoic in your words and actions without escalating things into a fight.
Say what you mean. Don't tolerate shit from anybody. But be sure to use tact. Ah, tact. We always talk about that word - the ability to tell someone to go to hell and have them look forward to the trip.
Use tact in your approach to address d-bags that give you a hard time.
Anyway, we're deep diving into how to deal with the d-bags, karens, or otherwise shitty people in life in today's episode.
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