We regret a lot of things in life, don't we?
We wrap ourselves in thoughts of the wouldas, couldas, and shouldas.
If I did just this ONE thing different...then I woulda....
If I said just this ONE thing instead...then I coulda...
I know I did this ONE thing....but I shoulda...
One thing is all it takes to change the past, huh?
That one line you said that ended your relationship. That one sell from your portfolio that ended up going to the moon. That one job offer you turned down
You'd still be with them. You'd be rich. You'd be at your dream job. Wouldn't you? Life would be so...different, maybe even better, a lot better, if you did just one little thing instead of what you did.
I'm sure you can think of your own example. That one single decision that changed the entire course of your life.
We all make that type of decision.
And if you haven't, well then I suppose you just haven't reached that point in your life yet.
You can most certainly guarantee that you're going to wind up making one small decision that has a HUGE impact on your life.
You can almost totally pinpoint, narrow down, to the exact second you really, for lack of a better term, fucked up.
And it's in that realization, of how what you did was wrong and of what you could have done, what you should have done, that you begin to think what could have happened.
That's the thought process that traps you in regret.
But did ya ever think that maybe, just maybe, the things you do TODAY, even just one small little thing, could have a HUGE impact TOMORROW?
Look, in the past, you made the best decision you could at the time. Based on the knowledge you had and emotions you felt at the time, you absolutely made the best decision you could.
So let go of that regret, man. Relax. It's all good. Shit happens.
You're smarter now. More mature. Like a video game, you gotta battle through some monsters in order to level up.
And you leveled up. You got better. You're more experienced now. You got past those monsters (even if you "died" a lot trying to beat it)
Moving forward, instead of thinking to yourself "How can I change the past?" with all these woulda, coulda, shouldas, think to yourself "How can I change the future?"
Realize this. Realize that you can change the entire course of your life by doing something small, something simple, something "half-assed" if you will.
After all, you know it was one little thing that changed your whole life, right?
Big moves don't happen without small, slow n' steady steps.
The present is the future's past.
So make better choices NOW.
You can't go back and change what happenED, but you can change what WILL happen by focusing on what's happenING.
And even if you still don't get it right, you managed to do your best, again given your current knowledge and emotional state.
Not every wrong decision you make has to be your defeat. It's simply part of the learning process, part of reaching the best version of yourself.
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