Loneliness is just a feeling.
Just because you are alone does NOT mean you need to feel lonely.
Minus a few Zoom calls and rounds of Call of Duty with some buddies (and all the social things you can do while social distancing we covered last week), most of the time spent in quarantine is spent alone.
Being alone in this Coronapocalypse may be inevitable, but getting anxious over "aloneness" is a choice.
You can either see alone time as a sort of prison sentence
...or as an opportunity to get to know the coolest person ever: yourself.
It's all perspective. Embrace laziness. Embrace solitude. Solitude is the art of being alone and laziness is the inspiration.
Relax, man. This quarantine is the perfect time to learn self-reliance. You get to fully be yourself, without worrying about any sort of social pressure.
You're free to lay back and enjoy life in the way you see fit.
I mean think about it....
You have ZERO social obligations. You can do what you want with your time.
You don't have to live up to anyone's standards but your own.
You don't have to compromise with anyone except your own thoughts.
No decision you make or opinion you have needs to become a debate or discussion
Dude, you are FREE!
You have all this time to truly be free, to truly be yourself. You get to discover who you are.
You get to express yourself without judgment from others. You get to be as lazy as you want.
Meet that stranger you see in first person. The thoughts. The feelings. The wants. The desires. The fears.
Put the phone down for a bit and truly isolate yourself. Completely.
If you achieve comfort in being alone, then comfort with others comes naturally.
Those who can't stand being alone rely on other people's approval and validation to compensate for their own lack of self worth.
When you can embrace being alone, you can begin to validate yourself. for yourself, and not have to play mascaraed.
Instead of trying to mold yourself to fit into other people's reality, you create your own reality and have others come along for the ride -- people that genuinely like you for you, not the image you project to appease to them.
So be alone for a bit and examine what you truly want in life, why you want it. Take note of your behavior and thought patterns as if you're trying to learn about a new friend. What are things you don't tolerate from yourself? What do you expect form yourself?
If you can answer that question about yourself, you'll find what you don't tolerate and what you will expect from others. This will make building meaningful and lasting relationships come more easily when we finally get out of lock down.
In the mean time, become your own best friend, damnit! S/he's pretty cool. I guarantee it.
The key to building a strong connection with others is to first build a strong connection to yourself. Ironically, you become closer to people by being alone.
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