So, it would be quite hypocritical for me to go as far as to say “always” procrastinate, despite my title as “The ProcrastiN8r”. It would be more accurate to say “procrastinate most times”, in most cases.
No doubt procrastination has its benefits. It’s usually best to put things off ‘til later, to wait until tomorrow, to say to yourself that it’ll happen “eventually”.
That puts you in a forward-thinking mindset.
Saying “eventually” allows you to see the potential of a better future, a better “tomorrow”. After all, tomorrow is perpetually coming, it’s an eternal loop of “the next day to arrive”, and believing that things can and will happen “tomorrow”, you are in turn believing that one day, perhaps soon, perhaps a long time from now, it will in fact happen. That’s a much more positive mindset to hold than failing to believe you ever could do it in the first place. You can do it! ….Just not right now. Not yet.
Of course, putting off what you’ll say you’ll do and saying “not yet” has its advantages. For one, it allows you to relax, to enable a peace of mind and deliberately decide the best course of action to take, slow n’ steady, instead of rushing in willy nilly with no freaking clue what you’re actually doing.
For another, it gives you time to mentally and emotionally prepare for the upcoming task at hand, giving you the opportunity to really store up a plethora of creative energy as well as giving you the ability to embrace a stronger focus.
However, there is a very specific instance in which you should, dare I say, NOT procrastinate. I know, I know, crazy and quite ironic isn’t it? The ProcrastiN8r himself saying not to procrastinate on something? Must be pretty juicy.
Well, look: You know I’m lazy af. And you know that I fully condone the act of procrastinating, but there is something that you shouldn’t put off and it’s honestly probably the only thing I’d ever utter the phrase “don’t procrastinate” about.
So what is it? What’s the one thing you shouldn’t say you’ll do tomorrow and instead do TODAY, do right now?
Well, let’s dive….right into it!
Don’t wait on the truth.
That’s right. You heard it hear folks. Telling the truth is the one thing you shouldn’t put off. Like ever.
You can procrastinate your homework, you can procrastinate doing laundry, you can even procrastinate calling back your friend. But what you can’t procrastinate on, what you must always do straight away, without any dilly dallying, is tell the full and complete truth.
I mean it. Don’t hide yourself behind a lie, or series of lies, with the promise that “one day” you’ll finally “come in clean”. Man, you shouldn’t be telling dirty lies to begin with. Heck, you haven’t cleaned your room in a long ass while, what makes you think you’re gonna get around to cleaning up your lies ever?
Don’t make a mess to begin with. And lies-- they make nothing but a mess.
Seriously, when was the last time lying has benefited you?
Oh so you got to save face and not hurt someone else’s feelings?
Well guess what, buddy? Deception is a lot more painful than the truth.
So you got that thing you wanted (because you made up a lie to get it)?
You know damn well you didn’t deserve it!
Lying leaves you with nothing but broken integrity and a haunting guilt.
Integrity is the one thing ya got. It’s “the Dude” in you. Once you lose that, ya ain’t got anything. People may not like you, the true you, but they’ll respect you for being up front about who you are and what you’re about. Respect is better to seek after than fondness. Let people hate the real you, rather than be fond of a fake version of you.
And if you don’t feel guilt after telling a lie, that’s a serious addiction, a serious problem. I’m not kidding when I say you may want to seek some mental health treatment if you can lie and not feel a pang of guilt here n’ there - that little pain in the back of your neck urging you to quit being a pussy and tell the damn truth!
There are people out there, and maybe you’re one of them, who aren’t even aware of their own lies. Habitual liars. They’re so deep in the habit of lying that they do so without even thinking about it. That is a real cause for concern.
I mean, if you can lie without second thought that means your mind is so far gone from the truth that your entire world is a lie.
Guilt though, for most of us, strikes us hard when we tell a lie. It eats away at us, tearing us apart from the very core. It’ll constantly nag you that what you said was wrong and you should be ashamed of yourself. And you should be! Lying isn’t cool, man. It ain’t chill. It ain’t lazy.
Being a procrastin8r isn’t always about putting things off ‘til later. Sometimes, it’s about staying relaxed and calm in the present.
You can’t feel relaxed or calm at all if you’re being haunted by the rancid feelings of guilt. Lean back and tell the truth, you’ll feel so much more at ease if you do.
It’s a Trap!
The more you lie, the more you feel the need to lie. You feel you must make lies to cover up your other lies and those lies you used to cover the first lies now need to be covered by even more lies. Next thing you know, you’re trapped in a thick, disgusting, sticky, and inescapable web of lies.
In other words, putting off telling the truth only makes the lies you originally told even nastier to deal with, it makes it even harder to “fess up” eventually than it does to just do so right away.
Man, you wanna talk about being lazy. You want to talk about taking things the easy way out. Well I tell you, it makes life a hell of a lot simpler if you just tell the goddamn truth, rather than concoct an elaborate series of lies.
You’ll save the hassle of having to remember all the lies you ever told and trying to make said lies believable with a bit of verisimilitude. I mean, after all, if you are going to tell a lie, you can’t make it sound like complete bullshit. It’s gotta have some “cred” to it, ya dig?
Coming up with that “cred” artificially is a lot of extra effort and time on your par and so is memorizing the lies you told like it's for some sort of exam. And anything that takes extra effort is NOT the lazy way at all.
I mean if you forget what you said, well then you’ll easily get caught in your lie. Likewise, if the lie itself seems fabricated then no one's gonna believe you anyway. The sheer amount of blood, sweat, and tears it takes to tell an effective lie is insane, and frankly., not even worth it dude.
Failure to tell an effective lie (one that’s believable and one that you can remember the details of) not only do you look like a deceitful son of a bitch but you also look like a complete dumb ass.
Best to tell the truth from the get go rather than put it off or dance around it.
Don’t Hesitate. Just say it.
You may be tempted to lie because you don’t want to hurt someone else’s feelings and you think that telling just a little lie won’t hurt.
False. It hurts. A lot.
You break the trust between you and another person when you lie, and trust is what every single type of relationship is built upon, whether its platonic, romantic, or even a business one.
Say what you mean and mean what you say. Like I said, it’s the one thing you should NOT procrastinate on. Get the truth out right off the bat. Immediately. Don’t puts around or try and hide things. Be honest - straight away!
Yes, there’s a way to be honest without being a blunt asshole. There is a fine line. But negating the truth entirely is equally as assholish as just “telling it like it is.” You can tell the truth with tact. Tact is important.
You don’t want to, for example, say that your friend’s art is ugly, although that would be the truth. You want to say something along the lines of “there’s room for improvement.” That’s better than flat out lying and telling them they’re some sort of artistic genius when you really don’t mean it.
You get the gist. You can be honest without being too much of an asshole.
You mustn’t think to yourself “Oh I’ll tell him/her the truth about that some day, just not yet” No. You always reveal the truth upfront.
Thing is, even if you do come in clean and admit the truth to your lie “eventually”, well congratulations, brother, you officially broke any and all trust you might have had in that relationship.
You permanently scarred the rapport between you two. The relationship won’t ever be the same. There will always be that tint of shade going on.
Like I said, integrity is all ya got. And it’s quite an easy thing to break if you’re not careful and let some sort of lie slip past your lips.
Having someone find out the truth “later” will only make them think about why you hadn’t told them the truth initially, right then and there.
Don’t be afraid to ruffle some feathers and say what you mean. Don’t be afraid to disagree or disapprove. While people may not like it, again, they will respect it.
They’ll respect your courage to take a stand on what you believe in, as opposed to attempting to enshroud yourself in some sort of mask to please others.
Lying is people pleasing. It’s as simple as that.
When you tell a lie, you’re trying to get some sort of praise or approval from someone else. You’re concocting a world that makes them happy. And for what? TO what end? A little smile? A kiss on the cheek? A warm fuzzy feeling inside that they like you?
Man, it’s better to be hated for who you are than loved for someone you’re not. Don’t let other people’s expectations, wants, or needs determine how you portray yourself. Be yourself, not a false creation of what you think others want out of you. This includes your personality, opinions, actions, behaviors and everything else about your character.
Just be you. Be your own Dude. Abide...and live in the truth. Tell the truth. Be the truth.
Approval seeking is people pleasing. It’s being ingenuine and creating superficial relationships, entirely based on a lie (or lies) you told.
If you want real relationships, genuine connections, you have to tell the truth.
And by the way, people pleasing is a lot of work man. Been there. Done that. It’s a full time job. I never want to work that shit again. And yes I mean NEVER.
It’s worse than schellping any 9 to 5, even retail and retail sucks! People pleasing drains your balls. It depletes you of energy...and I’d rather just take a nap. Speaking of which….
The only time you should LIE is when you’re on the couch or bed.
We covered that idea just stated in depth in another article, which I do suggest for further reading related to this topic.
But make no excuses. Don’t lie about your age. Don’t lie about your hair. Don’t lie about how many people you’ve slept with. Be real. Keep it real.
You may not like it. You may not be proud of it. But so what? That’s you, baby!
Love yourself, flaws and all. Love yourself no matter how warped your opinions are.
Don’t try to lie to yourself and pretend to be someone you’re not or say things you don’t really believe in just to get some sort of applause or wink of the eye.
Man, just relax and abide by your own thing regardless. Regardless of what, you ask? Regardless. Period. Regardless of consequences. Regardless of disapproval. Regardless of haters and criticizers. Be your TRUE self regardless of anything.
Because you know what? Let’s face it, at the end of the day, there are far worse consequences for getting caught in a lie than having the truth be told and it not being accepted.
You don’t want to be labeled a liar. It may even be better to be called an “asshole” than a liar. At least that way, people can trust that you’ll do what you say and say what you mean.
Aim first to accept your own truth, no matter how bad it is. You’ll find people that accept you, just the way you are, just the place you’re at.
Lie down on the couch and embrace your own laziness. Embrace your humble abode, where only truth exists.
Don’t put on an elaborate act and try to bluff your way through life. Again, that’s just creating extra work for yourself. Do the lazy thing and just lean on back, relax on into yourself and be the “real” dude that you are.
Telling the Truth is literally one of the LAZIEST things you can do
Lying is stressful. It literally puts your brain in an overwhelmed state of mind. As a procrastin8r, you want to remain cool, calm, and laid back at all times. Lying is certainly no way to achieve this.
Between rehearsing and memorizing lines to say to make your lie believable and tangling up knots upon knots of lies to keep your deception tight, it’s way too much effort for the lazy man (or woman for that matter) to do.
The longer you put off telling the truth, the more burdensome workload you create for yourself, and thus it’s really not in your best interest as a procrastin8r to ever tell a lie and procrastinate being honest.
Don’t hold back on being your true self is what I’m saying here.
Whether you’ve been raised by a Catholic family and hold atheist beliefs or are gay and are surrounded by very conservative people, don’t procrastinate coming out with the truth.
The truth gives you freedom. It gives you a feeling of liberty.
By telling lies or pretending to be something or someone you’re not, you create your own prison. Break free. Don’t wait. Go out there and tell the truth. Just...abide.
Take it easy,