Don't Be a Hero. Be a ProcrastiN8r Sidekick

​People try to live life to the extreme, attaining extreme amounts of success and wealth using extreme methods to make it happen. We’re given the premise to “go hard or go home”, but you know what?

Yeah, I’d rather go home. I’d rather lay on the couch all day and be in my lazy. I’d rather be relaxed and happy than overworked and overstressed. I’d rather be inside and at ease than go out and make things hard for myself.

That’s not to say I won’t achieve, that’s not to say I won’t make things happen, but I do so within my means. And I do so…*eventually*. I put hard things off and take it one step at a time. I procrastinate…with purpose.

 Despite all these claims that you must “strive for the impossible,” I’d rather do what’s, I don’t know, actually fucking possible. I mean, I like to think of myself as a practical man, a lazy one perhaps, but also very practical. And in being practical, I know my limits.

Of course, we’re told, “the sky is the limit”, implying that there really is no limit at all, because the sky is infinite. The sky expands to the stars, planets, and the whole galaxy. 


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Basically, there is no limit. But let’s put this in perspective, shall we? We’re talking space. We’re talking countless intergalactic worlds above and beyond us. We’re talking a whole expansion of existence that we couldn’t even comprehend. And you wanna be one to think that you, a small human being, have no limits? None? Like at all?

We’re basically little tiny specs of dust in the grand cosmos that like to think of ourselves as the most important thing in the entire universe.

That’s not to say we as human beings are UNimportant, but to go as far as to believe we’re NOT limited is very…impractical, to say the least. We as humans can of course do wonderful things, absolutely fascinating and marvelous things.

But to believe that there’s nothing that “can’t” be done, well, now you’re just admitting you’ve been brainwashed.

I mean, fuck, imagine a Moose. And this moose is self conscious. He is capable of his own thoughts, and you know what he thinks of a lot about? He thinks a lot about how he wants to become more than a moose. He wants to achieve the greatest thing moose-kind has ever witnessed. He wants to push beyond his limits!

You’d be like, dude calm down, you’re a moose! Go enjoy being a moose, doing moose things.

Now imagine if all his moose buddies also believed the same thing -- that they’re gonna change the world in some big elaborate fashion. You’d be like, okay maybe some of you are some exceptional moose here and can really change the world one day, but I mean, not every single one of you moose are gonna pull off something spectacular.





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The same goes for us, the same goes for people. Face it, we can’t ALL be the exception. We can’t all make something big happen.

But that’s okay. That’s completely okay. It’s okay to not want to be big or make big things happen. It’s okay to do….just enough. It's okay to be an Average Joe or Jane.
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Put it this way, most people in history, upon the billions and billions of people on Earth that have ever existed, haven’t made the history books.  Yet, we all seem to want to try and make a name for ourselves.

We get so obsessed with making a mass impact that we fail to appreciate the role in which we live in. We’re so passionate about what *could be, that we fail to even notice what is. We live our lives in an imaginary future, rather than in the reality of the present. And that makes us blind to just how dang good we already have it.

Besides, making a name for yourself ain’t all it cracked up to be. I mean, think about it, just because you did something to hit the history books in your life, doesn’t mean you lived a good life.It just means you lived a life worth writing about. But a life worth writing about isn’t necessarily a good life.

Look at the news, what are they writing about? All the murders, the diseases, the disasters, the drama. That’s what sells the newspapers.

Heck, guys like Hitler and Stalin have made history. And I know that there are also wonderful people like Martin Luther King, as we just celebrated recently, Gandhi, and others of the like. I’m not trying to downplay the positive heroes and heroines of history. Point I’m trying to make here though is that being a big deal in the eyes of society (and history) is really not that big of a deal.

It’s better to live a humble life, a lazy life, and actually be a good person than it is to make your life a boasting performance.

That’s not to say you can’t perform and do great things that influence people and make a change for the world. You can make little changes. You can do just enough and still have lived a worthwhile life, whether or not your name is remembered centuries from now.



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​Perhaps your role is to be a great friend, father, sister or brother to the Messiah and not the Messiah him/herself.


I mean, we of course,  all like to think of ourselves as the protagonist of our own story. And because of all these TV shows and movies, we fall in love with the idea of being some sort of hero. 

So let me put it this way: Perhaps you’re not the hero, but the sword merchant that sells the hero the sword that is ultimately used to slay the dragon.

What I’m getting at here is this idea of balance, the idea of doing JUST ENOUGH to get by, to fulfill your role in the universe at large, even if it’s really not that much, even if you’re not the big hero. You can be the sidekick and still kick ass!

Maybe your role isn’t to work hard and succeed, but to relax and be lazy, remind people that there’s admiration in leisure, in taking time to rest and be at your ebay.

 I’m not about to get up n’ go just for the sake of getting up n’ going. There’s no sense to “git r dun” right away when I have all the time in the world.

Of course, one might claim oh no! Time here in life is limited. You must make the best of it. And I suppose at this point it becomes a philosophical debate over what exactly allows a person to “make the best of life.”

Is it obtaining external perks like notoriety or fame or hordes and hordes of wealth? Or is it finding inner-peace and happiness within yourself?

I’ll leave that up to you to decide. To each his own I suppose, but I’m here to tell you what the procrastin8r does. That’s my mantra.

One of the most vital aspects I aim for, personally, is balance. 

The procrastin8r lives a life of balance. He never does too much of anything. Obviously over-doing something is not in his nature -- never overworked, overtired or overstressed.

He never does too little either. While it may not get done *right away*, it does get done *eventually*. Shit will happen, slow n’ steady. There will be *just enough* progress to matter.

Now let’s briefly get into how balance looks in the different aspects of your life, briefly, how being a regular dude and not some sort of hero to the world..




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Balancing Your Riches:

We all think that we want to be rich, but what does being rich even mean?

Certainly, a luxury car and fancy mansion might be nice to have, it’s not really what makes you happy. It’s not even really what you want when you think about getting rich.

What makes you happy is freedom. That’s what you really want from obtaining lots of wealth. You want enough money to give you the  the freedom to do what you want, when you want, without feeling the heavy burden of bills to pay or mouths to feed.

Aim not to collect an obsessive amount of material things, just for the pure sake of a grand collection, but to collect for yourself *just enough* to make ends meet and give you freedom.

You don't want to be so poor that you're struggling to survive, but at the same time you don't want to be so rich that you stifle the ability for others to cover their basic needs.

Richness in balance is financial freedom.






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​Balancing Your Relationships:

You can’t give too much, because that makes you a people pleaser. And being a people pleaser
Is a full time job. You don’t want a full time job, so don’t make one for yourself!

Now of course, if you take too much for yourself and demand too much from others that just makes you a flat out selfish prick. Don’t do that.

Remember never do *too* much of anything, as a procrastin8r. Always do *just enough*, nothing more, nothing less. 

Give n’ take. That’s the basic premise of any healthy relationship.







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Balancing Your Career

You can’t work too hard or you’ll burn out. Likewise, you can’t rest too much and not make *any* progress. You must move forward, ever steady n’ ever slowly, taking necessary breaks when necessary.

Take days to just lay around doing nothing. Give your mind, body, and spirit time to rejuvenate so you can tackle things with full energy.

I feel like each of these aspects of balance is something we can cover in deeper detail in the future. Perhaps in the oncoming weeks. But that’s enough for now. Trying to keep things balanced :)



For now, take it easy,



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