They make it off like you’re some sort of loser if you quit things so easily.
Well they’re wrong.
Winners quit all the time. They just know when to quit and how to quit. They know when to walk away and then go lay on the couch.
Look, sometimes, it doesn’t really make sense to put in any extra effort at all and keep something going just to keep it going. Sometimes ya gotta embrace your laziness and know when to call it quits.
There just may just be something you’re putting time, money, and effort into that is totally NOT worth it (logically speaking and not in a depressive sort of tone.)
This principle applies to business, relationships, and even personal goals.
Knowing when to quit is a fundamental part of being a PRO-crastin8r.
Ya gotta know when to say “enough is enough.” Ya gotta know when to Yawn and move on.
Be a lazy quitter who doesn’t always “stick it out” for the sake of sticking it out.
See, “Don’ ever quit” is too broad of a statement. It’s an odd ultimatum that assumes quitting is always a bad thing. It’s not.
Quitting is neither good or bad; it just is. It’s a thing that you do.
Likewise, one would assume that “hitting” is always a bad thing .I mean, most times it is, sure, but not always. Not necessarily. I mean you can HIT a ball with a baseball bat and that’d be totally cool.
But if you hit your wife with a baseball bat, that’s something you deserve to get locked up for.
You can also HIT your savings goal and that’s quite an achievement. But HIT your banker in the face and that's not a good thing.
Anyway, point is, when it comes to morality of the word, it’s all about context.You can’t assume that quitting is ALWAYS bad. Certainly it *can* be, but not always, not by definition.
It all depends on the context of the situation, as well as the thinking process behind it.
There are essentially two different types of “calling it quits”
- Quitting (good) which is done through thought, strategy, and purpose.
2. Giving up (bad) which is done through reckless emotion.
Just like the lazy man procrastinates with purpose so too does he quit with purpose. He has the confidence to say” meh, I’m done” when he’s done and exit with slothful grace, like a turtle withdrawing in its shell
Quitting is driven by slow, rational thought as opposed to adrenaline rushed instinct. It is a thoughtful decision, instead of a knee jerk reaction. Gotta keep your poker face on.
Cue Kenny Rodgers.
"Ya gotta know when to fold"
So how exactly do you know when to quit?
Here are some telltale signs that its time to quit (the good kind). 13 to be exact. Yup, 13 Reasons Why you should Quit. You can apply these to both business and personal goals (in no particular order).
Embrace the Lazy mindset, let it touch every aspect of your life, and dive in..
If your investment with time, money, and/or energy in a relationship, either a personal or business one, does not produce fair benefits, then it’s time to quit. Bye.
Like, if you’re actually gonna have to get out of bed to do something, it should be worth the sheer amount of exertion it takes.
In terms of a job this means, you get paid properly for the amount of hours you put in, ideas you create, and overall productivity you complete.
You have to ask yourself, is what you’re doing really worth “x” amount of dollars per hour?
If not, ask for a raise. Incrementally ask to increase your wage until it reaches a point of fairness. If your boss refuses to budge about your salary, no matter how small of a raise, quit. You ain’t got time to deal with bullshit.
In terms of a relationship (romantic or platonic) this means you receive appreciation and reciprocation for everything you do
You have to ask yourself, is this relationship equally balanced with give/take?
If you pay for dates, pay for rent, buy gifts, and all you ever receive is a kiss or maybe worse, a condescending comment or shitty attitude, and never receive the same gestures in return, then it’s time to drop the ball
No matter what you do, it’s never enough. Ah, face it, it’s going no where, so you should go somewhere else.
You feel stuck in a rut. You should be moving forward, always. That doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll jump to CEO position tomorrow or become an Olympic gold medalist overnight or even have the perfect relationship.
But it does mean you are constantly gaining xp and leveling up, no matter how long it takes.
Slow n Steady wins the race.
There of course are gonna be “bad days”, just like the stock or crypto market takes a plunge every once in a while or your favorite team loses a game.
But as long as there is an upwards positive trend, as long as things are getting better, then it’s worth sticking around. Take a look at this chart about the stock market from finance expert Ric Delman.
See? Positive trend overall, despite some HUGE pit falls, including the Great Depression.
However, if the trend is spiraling downwards in a negative way. If the amount of stress at work is getting worse, if the amount of fights with your boss (or even significant other for that matter) is increasing, or if the work load is increasing while the payload is increasing, if overall the situation becomes less and less favorable, then it’s time to cut your losses and head out.
The trend of progress (or lack thereof) also doesn’t necessarily need to be headed in a negative direction to be worthy of calling it quits.
It can instead reach a static point, a flat lined dead end. Stability is one thing, but stagnation is another.
Perhaps you’re simply bored, get into a mundane routine, doing the same thing over and over and over again.
You are human, after all, not a machine. You’re meant to go out there and live, not repeat the same mindless tasks over and over again.
It’s natural to desire some sense of progress, no matter how slow n’ easy it is, as long as it’s there. The only place you want to stagnate is in bed and even then, it’s always nice to have fluffier pillows and a comfier mattress.
Now I don’t mean you fret the future from a place of insecurity, full of worry and anxiety. Don’t worry, man, be lazy. Worrying is too much work.
Remember, all of this must come from a place of strength. You want strong trees to hold up your hammock as you relax on that island, dude. Be smooth and deliberate with your thoughts and actions, not hyper and panicky.
When I say you “don’t look forward to the future”. I mean it’s something you have logically concluded is not something you wish to participate in.
Just like I don’t want to go to that party because I want to play video games instead, not because I’m a depressive fuck, but because that’s what I prefer to do. I do not see a future of me going to a party again.
And by the way, before I get all the haters saying “DEPRESSION IS A SERIOUS THING! YOU CAN’T MAKE FUN OF IT!”
Calm your nerves. See, that is exactly the type of panicky hard working mindset I’m talking about. Chill.
Depression is serious, no doubt. I get that. You get that Those undergoing such painful mental experiences shouldn’t have a stigma and should receive help, of course.
I’m just trying to make clear that it’s possible to NOT look forward to the future without being sad about it.
I know. I’m still going to get haters saying I’m some mental illness phobe.
But I’m too lazy to give a fuck.
It’s like seeing an oncoming train and blankly just staring at it, knowing you don’t want to get hit by it.
Quit staring and get out the way. Control your future and don’t let it control you. The ProcrastiN8r is always cool-headed and in control.
Lack of opportunity and the ability to move upward is one thing, but not wanting to level up in the first place is another.
Look at the people above you. Do you want their job?
Look at the next step in the relationship. Do you want to commit to that?
If the answer’s NO. Don't be afraid to say it. Then politely tell 'em you just gotta quit. Don’t stare at the train the whole time until it inevitably comes. Get the fuck outta there.
Just rip the bandage off.
If you stick around all it means is your gonna deal with more drama and bullshit in the future, a logical lazy thing to avoid because that requires extra effort.
Be up front about what you want from the beginning. Don’t lie just to win approval and get hired or start dating. This saves a lot of future hassle and drama, which as a lazy person you don’t want to deal with at all. Lying also requires remembering things rather then just speaking honetly and that’s such a waste of brain power. Can’t focus on c-c-c-combo breakers and pwning noobs when you’re trying to memorize the web of lies you created.
If you’re clear about what you want from the beginning, who you are as a person and what you genuinely value, not what you *think* the other person wants you to value, there really shouldn’t be any sort of “Whoops! Surprise” type of moments or random argumentative outbursts.
You can just simply say “Look, I told you from the beginning.” Our first date, my first interview. And you knew what you were signing up for.
You save yourself from investing time and energy into a business project or romantic prospect or becoming any level of emotionally attached to a company or person that you simply don’t see eye to eye with.
People change their mind, sure. But you’re not going to change yours.
5. You (or your partner/co-worker) are not learning anything new
You may be a bit stubborn and lazy, and that’s fine. At the end of the day, you get what you want and play life on your own terms, work on your own terms, sleep on your own terms.
And while you may not change your mind based on moral principle or decisions, you can change your mind in the sense of evolving it with change as you learn new things.
Once that evolution comes to a halt though, it may be time to quit. Leave your job. Break up.
A job that offers no opportunity to expand your mind and teach you new knowledge either through mentoring or experience may not be rewarding enough to stick around. If you aren’t learning, you aren’t growing. You aren’t moving forward.
This alone may not be a reason to quit, but combined with others could be an absolute deal breaker.
And similar to reaching a stagnation point, you may find yourself hitting the same ice berg (problem) in a relationship or work environment.
Mistakes are Meh and failures happen but if your romantic partner or co workers keep making the same exact mistakes and hitting the exact same failure point,, it’s time to say good bye.
6. You receive Constant Criticism
You shouldn’t quit just because you had a rather bad presentation one day or made an honest mistake and get criticized for it.
Criticism is “meh” whatever, not taken personally and can actually be useful in helping us grow.
However, if it seems like, and maybe you’ve even been told directly that“ You can’t do anything right”, if every action you take, every word you say is criticized, then it is time to quit for sure.
Anything, eh? Well that’s a broad brush.
If you’re told you that you can’t do anything wrong, then you’re probably doing *something* wrong and that person has you on a pedestal.,
Likewise, if you ‘re told that you can’t do anything right, then you’re probably doing *something* right and that person has you on the bottom rung of the sewer ladder.
Look there’s no such thing as being 100% perfection or 100% failure.
Valuable criticism is balanced between both the good *and* bad, as Thanos and Guthix would agree, and a person who can’t do that is just insecure in themselves.
Either they feel so inferior to you that they fail to notice *any* flaw, as if you are a deity or they feel so superior that they begin to act like a deity themselves and you the mortal peasant.
If a person is criticizing you and never balancing it out with appreciation and compliments, then they clearly have some personal issues to deal with.
Let them find someone else to nag and bitch to.
The procrastinator enjoys sleep. Using energy is one thing, and sometimes necessary, like when wlaking to the fridge, but depleting it to the point of burn out is another.
A procrastinator never fully depletes ALL of his energy or very well shouldn’t. That’s like Pooh Bear running out of honey.
We’re not talking the typical “Aw man, I gotta get up for work tomorrow.” Sunday night blues you mumble to yourself. We all want to create a Lazy Lifestyle where every day feels like the weekend and destroy the Monday
But when this sentiment and feeling becomes a bit more...extreme, when you experience stronger levels of emotion, like perhaps fear and anxiety, instead of a bit of frustration.
When you start to physically feel your heart palpitating and sweating, combined with an anxious feeling, at just the thought of returning to work (or returning to your guy/girl for that matter), it’s definitely time to call in permanently sick.
There’s a fine line between not wanting to wake up on Monday just because you’d rather sleep in, and literally having some sort of borderline PTSD symptoms the night before.
Of course, some weeks you may feel this way. (Again, we don’t want to make our decisions entirely on feelings and some times we just have bad days) But it may be a bit concerning if it happens on a consistent basis, especially when combined with other signs on this list.
You may just need to chillax though, man, and not get worked up so easily.
No matter how serious a relationship gets and no matter how serious business can be, if there’s never any laughter, none. It’s time to quit.
If the tone is always stone cold sober, without any lightheartedness, that’s just miserable
It doesn’t necessarily have to be “The Office” or full of slapstick pranks and goofy pun humor or silly insults but if there’s not even the occasional “comic relief” moment IRL, that’s a problem.
If your job is stealing away from your home game, with family, friends, and romantic relationships, it’s time to call your boss and give him the two word sentence: I Quit
In the same vein if your personal life stealing away from your job productivity and relationships with coworkers, it’s time to call up your (now ex) and give her the two word sentence: It’s Over.
This gets a little more complex if you’re married, living together, and have kids, which is why you should frankly avoid those things to begin with.
As a general Lazy rule of thumb, the less committed you are (to a relationship or job), the more freedom you have to do whatever the fuck you want and with freedom comes happiness
Don’t put yourself in a situation where you limit too much of your freedom or you'll find yourself very unhappy (unless of course you choose to make that decision, lazily logically, and understand the sacrifices you are making)
Drama is energy draining is never productive. It maximizes effort and minize results, quite the opposite of what you want to achieve as a procrastin8r. It turns a simple conversation into an elaborate verbal fencing match between two opponents.
I’m too lazy for any fancy footwork or fighting in my discussion and prefer issues to be resolved in a higher level conversation, not a primitive guttural shouting match.
If I wanted drama, I’d tune into TNT, *they* know drama.
This applies to either your boss or significant other: If they get angry or upset when you make a decision (no matter how small) without you consulting them first, even if it was the right decision (or perhaps even insignificant), if they always ask you proning questions like “where are you going?” or “when will you be back?” then it’s time to resign. Yes, reisgn form your relationship “Hey babe, I am resigning as your boyfriend.”
That’s not a healthy relationship at all. That’s not collaborative
It’s controlling. They’re not your parent. You’re not a teenager. You’re two adults and if they insist on treating you they’re some sort of gatekeeper for your free will, it’s closer to a slave master and his slave than anything else at that point. Leave.
Your boss (or girl/boyfriend) makes a mistake and what do they do?
And they play that card. Every. Single. Time. Like a gosh darn pet trying to act all cute and innocent.
Man, just admit to your mistakes. Fucking own it. It’s no big deal, but by lying, *you made it* a big deal. Now it’s a big deal, because you lied.
And sometimes they’ll go as far as gaslighting you and turning you into the scapegoat, swinging the story and firing an emotional net gun to tangle and trap you in a cover of concocted calumniation.
That shows they are immature and can’t handle the simple act of making a mistake, despite the fact that every single human on the face of the planet that ever existed has made hundreds of them.
We as procrastin8rs understand the fundamental fact that Mistakes are Meh and don’t really matter in the grand scheme of thing; we own our mistakes and learn from them rather than try to hide them and repeat them.
But the one question you need to ask yourself in order to determine if it’s time to quit is this:
Do you feel drained?
All of the items in the list above will certainly suck you dry if you’re not careful
Burnt toast is burnt and you can’t just un-burn it by throwing it in the de-toaster.
You don’t ever want to quit practical and productive goals, but you do want to quit ones that are either too BIG or drain you. Throw them out!
Be able to recognize when you are in a toxic work environment or relationship and have the lazy attitude to say “fuck it” and walk away from it.
Understanding how to apply the Lazy Mindset principles, including when to quit to all aspects in your life is vital in creating a stress-free, laid back lifestyle
Making money online from the couch is of course an important goal as ProcrastiN8rs, but money is only one aspect of the whole picture.
Quit trying to make money online and start trying to establish the Lazy Mindset to every nook and cranny of your brain instead. The former will come as a result of the mindset.
Take it easy,
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