This is because you're basically spending precious time, money, and effort on someone else with little to no mutual or returned benefit.
You've got to drop that faster than you drop down on the couch after a long day at work.
Being a successful procrastinator, a Lazy Mastermind, involves being a bit selfish and doing things on your own time. You basically have to be too lazy to care about anyone else’s wants or needs but your own. You’ve got to stop people pleasing. It takes too much time and energy (and sometimes money) to do things for other people. You’ve got to save those resources for yourself.
You’ve been living under the false impression that making other people happy is how you gain social approval and success.Wrong.
People respect people, they place value on, people who value their own resources of time, money, and effort.
Doing things for other people is tiring, time-consuming, expensive, and very rarely is it actually rewarding. Sure, maybe you’ll make the other person happy or you’ll feel good about helping a person in need who is really struggling.
But at the end of the day, if you’re not helping yourself, you’re hurting yourself. And at the end of the day, that person you thought you were helping out of a “rough patch” is still stuck because guess what? They became reliant on your help.
Cut that non-sense out.
You’ll be called selfish. You’ll be called lazy. You’ll be called rude.
Smile and say “thank you.”
I mean you can people please and people-please all you want, but eventually you’ll wear yourself out and say “enough is enough”.
You’re either going to take heed to my advice now and start procrastinating or continue people-pleasing then face a rough road ahead. I say take the easy way out.
Any effort you do put into something ultimately should serve yourself, otherwise it’s a complete waste.
If someone asks them to do something, the procrastinator doesn’t jump up immediately to fulfill that person’s request. If s/he does do it at all, it is done on his time, not anyone else’s. S/he gets it done when s/he wants, when s/he feels like it. S/he doesn’t follow schedules. S/he makes his own.
S/he also doesn’t help out if it’s not convenient for them. For example, if their friend asks them to pick them up from work because s/he needs a ride, the lazy person would decline unless s/he was already out running errands in the same neighborhood. Likewise if their roommate asked them to take out the trash while s/he was sitting on the couch, the procrastinator wouldn’t take the trash out until s/he gets up to do something else he was going to do anyway, like go to the bathroom.
The attitude the procrastinator has if s/he does help out is “Well, I was going to do it anyway and I’m not doing it just because you asked.”
If you create value within yourself by doing what you want, you'll attract the right like-minded people and "please" them and "help" them as a sort of by-product of your lifestyle, without going through leaps and bounds of trying to win someone over that just doesn't hold similiar values and will NEVER appreciate you (at least to the degree that you would hope for or expect)
As a PROcrastiN8r, you don’t share your time, money, or energy with someone unless you are reciprocated equally or have an excess amount of resources. We’ll have to dive into the details of reciprocation as well as what constitutes “excessive” resources.
But for now, just avoid going out of your way to help anyone out.
Take it easy.
Take it reeeaaal easy.