It is the pathway to Confidence and eventually self-fullfillment, the lazy pathway that is!
Like any great art, it takes years of study achieve full mastery, but today, I want to at least take a little plunge in and get our feet wet on this true and powerful art form. It’ll be more like paint by numbers in terms of difficulty, but will at least give a us a good starting point into the topic. Besides, slow n’ steady wins the race.
We can later get more in depth. Eventually...probably...maybe.
Most martial arts will teach you to use it not to kill, but to protect. Likewise, it is important to use the Art of NGAF for a sense of peace, rather than for warmongering purposes. One must use it to lay back and not care as opposed to recklessly not caring about the lives and needs of others.
Some may call this art "confidence". You heard that right.
Confidence is simply the art of not giving a fuck.
The more fucks you give, the more insecure you'll feel about yourself.
Less is more. Cha Cha Cha charisma.
But seriously, the more emotionally attached you are to an person, place, or idea, the harder it is to let go when things go south .
You trap yourself in a mental prison if you care too much about something/someone.
Now you don't need to be a cold heartless bastard. Put in "just enough". Be lazy and frugal with your investment of emotional, mental, and financial resources.
Give "just enough" to others.
Care about others without caring what they think of you. And care about yourself above others. That's the principle in confidence.
It may sound like you're being selfish, but that doesn't matter. At least you have self respect and can walk away from something or someone shitty.
Honey badger don't care and honey badger confident as fuck!
Regardless of what?
Just regardless. Period.
Regardless of consequences. Regardless of disapproval. Regardless of hate. Regardless of fill in the blank.
Live for your own happiness rather than for the happiness of others.
Enjoy yourself and people will be naturally drawn to your enjoyment of life.
Let go of your need for approval. Let go of your fears of rejection. Let go of your anxiety to get things right.
All confidence is is freedom. Freedom to do, say, and feel what you want and how you want it without feeling attached to commitment or obligation of others.
It's doing things on *your* terms regardless...or not doing them for that matter.
Don't worry about others' expectations of you.
Hakuna Mattata or whatever.
Now if you’re wondering “what if” or “but”...
You're thinking too much. You're making problems that don't even exist.
Either they're gone in the past or imagined in the future, but they certainly don't exist RIGHT NOW in the president.
Confidence is the act of doing, without getting bogged down by thoughts or limitations.
It's the feeling of limitlessness. True freedom. Laziness is your path to get there.
When you're lazy, you naturally just don't care about things that waste time, energy, or money. You don't care what people think about you. You just do you, dude.
You naturally have the talent for the Art of Not Giving a Fuck when you embrace your laziness. You let go of the past and don't care how or why things could go wrong.
All these pain points you may have are just distractions. Stop distracting yourself. Stop hesitating.
Think positive...or don't think at all. Just abide. Relax..
Go to that party or interview or date with the attitude of "I'm gonna have a good time."
See that? Simple and straightforward. None of this "what if" or "but" excuses. Besides, you can't be prepared for every situation and you'll drive yourself crazy trying to think of them and a solution to each of them. Make a decision and then make that decision right. Don't worry about making the right decision. That's a tedious process and results in nothing but anxiety. Just go with the flow.
Look, anxiety is a natural emotion. Rejection and lack of social approval meant you wouldn't have a tribe to protect you in the hunting n gathering days of our ancestors
Our brains are literally hardwired to associate social disapproval with death.
You're not gonna die if people reject you. You're not.
The instincts are still there tho. You just gotta recognize it for what it is and roll thru it, without second guessing yourself.
You only come across awkward if you're worried about how awkward you appear.
Free yourself from rationalizing your reptile brain's instincts.
Remember: "I'm here to have a good time". Not make friends, not find a date, not get a job. Have a good time. That's it.
You'll come across laid back and attract more people than you ever would "trying"
If you must think, in regard to the art of NGAF, then you should have the following type of thoughts:
"I like me. I'm pretty damn awesome. And if you think otherwise, you're wrong. I don't need your or anyone else's approval. My presence is commanding and not an apology. Respect from me must be earned. I don't submit. I lead. I'm decisive. I take action and don't need to explain myself. I'm naturally charismatic. I radiate confidence. I take charge of social situations with ease. I am unfazed by rejection."
Those are the type of thoughts you should be having.
Adhere to this advice and your (lazy) confidence will level up
Or ignore it.
I don’t give a fuck!