Stop Trying to Get Instant Gratification. There's No Rush for Happiness, Success, & Fulfillment.

​Woah, hey slow down. Sit on down and relax.

That’s not something most people tell you any more, unless they'r being condescending.

I know.

It’s crazy out there!

Everyone’s rushing to get things done and no one really knows why they’re in such a hurry to begin with. Everything we do from going to work to completing our everyday tasks in between is done in an unbelievably quick fashion, with no regard to actually taking our time, experiencing the thing, and well, living in the present.

We don’t even take our time to do something as simple as eat. I mean certainly we eat by stuffing our faces with burgers, pizza, and other fast food, but the act of eating itself is rushed. We’re not *eating*, we’re just rushing through the process of obtaining sustenance and nourishment. We don’t actually put ourselves in the present and experience what eating actually is.

There are monks that literally eat their entire meals...One. Bite. At a time...in order to fully experience the process of eating by its very nature, in order to taste the food, smell it, feel its texture, and become aware of how each muscle moves while eating ---the movement movement of, the throat swallowing, all these things that go on that we typically don’t give a second thought to.


There’s a lot going on, a lot of artful complexity in everything we do, even the simplest of things, that we all but miss due to our habit of rushing through things endlessly.



Are we at fault? Is this a habit we are responsible in ourselves for developing?

Well, it may not be completely our fault in obtaining this odd fixation on asking “what’s next?” and moving immediately from one thing to another. After all, we don’t necessarily choose the society we’re born into, but it may be our fault to continue to embrace such patterns once we “wake up” and realize what’s going on.



It’s a fast paced society with an unceasing amount of things to do.

It’s a world of desire for instant gratification and instant results.

You want a date? Swipe right.

You want to order pizza? Click a few buttons

You want to get the latest weather update? Talk to a speaker on your desk

How about a new pair of shoes? Great. One click checkout and it’ll be at your house in a few hours.




We’re used to getting things right away or at least very soon from the moment that we crave them or want them. We live in a world of instant gratification and getting it done now. Well, the procrastinator always waits for later. Anything you want can be available within seconds (or at least on its way to your door within seconds). Anything you crave to eat or touch can satisfied within the same time frame. It’s quick, instant, and as a patient procrastin8r who always puts things off, I have to say, scarily so.

We’re addicted to seeing the little red bubble pop up within minutes after we post something and getting that instant gratification of approval. The amount of likes has become tied with self confidence.

This whole “do it for the likes” culture has gone too far. People were literally eating Tide pods, remember that? And spoonfuls of cinnamon all just to get views.


Then you have this whole phenomenon of how“ Depression” is seen as a “cool” thing. There are memes and comments all over.There are people depressed and it’s a serious issue, don’t get me wrong. I’ve been there, personally. I know how life can feel like it’s out to get you, how it feels like there’s no escape and no end to the psychological and emotional  torture. But there are many people that are simply going through a hard time, experiencing the natural process of grief or regret and aren’t anywhere near the level of negativity that depression encompasses. As much as grief and regret are negative emotions, they are not any way equivalent to actual Depression. If you have *actual* Depression, it’s hard to reach out to anyone, yet alone make a public billboard (aka social media post) about it. These people, the ones who are not clinically diagnosed, and recently experienced some trauma that made them feel negative, are looking for attention. Simple as that.






And that’s how far we’ve gone as a society. We’ve become so addicted to this attention and receiving it instantly that people diagnose themselves with diseases in order to get their fix -- fix as in a junkie’s relief, not a fix as in an issue resolved.

That says something though. That says that on some level we want to connect on a human level. We want to share in our experiences through real emotion.

But unfortunately, the desire for social approval and instant gratification is often times stronger than the desire to build genuine, meaningful relationships. People will try to “connect” only if it gets them likes.


We swipe right and left when we want to meet someone, not just for dates, but you can even do some professional networking on Tinder-like app called “Ripple”

Meaningful relationships are rare and are certainly NOT encouraged in our work hard mantra and instant gratification society.


People post and “communicate” with the sole intention of earning likes, that instant gratification of social approval, the instant attention. They don’t try to connect on a deeper level or truly understand each other.



Online conversation, especially when it gets into politics turns it no nothing but a flame war with each party speaking in memes and one liners they found from a [insert political party] blog here. This is no way to connect with other people or build meaningful relationships or even understand one another.

A procrastin8r sits on back and listens, without judgment. Blues muusician Daryl Davis has befriended and converted over 200 KKK members within the past three decades. He didn’t do this by shouting or yelling or posting a meme to their wall or sending an angry e-mail or creating a viral rant video.

You know what he did?
He met up with them. Sat down face to face and he...

Listened.

He questioned them from a place of curiosity like a child wanting to learn (genuine curiosity), not in a condescending or hostile way, and listened. He held back any accusations and angry banter and instead sat back, listened, ask some follow up questions, and repeat.

This is the way to do it. This guy has the Lazy Mindset without even knowing what it is. He’s a natural PRO-crastin8r.






These two people with two very opposing worldviews became friends. It is possible to make that happen.

Social media, on the other hand, doesn’t do a great job at building such a  connection, at least thus far and has yet to prove otherwise; it sets us apart and has us think of each other as nothing more than a screen name and profile pic. It’s a rushed means of communication and isn’t a replacement for the ability we have as humans to connect and understand one another on a higher level than these virtual tools can ever offer us.

Setting us apart is an important goal for the elite, of course; it keeps us fighting among st ourselves rather than focusing our efforts towards working together and taking action to put a stop to their excessively greedy practices.

A recent example was that whole "Aunt Becky" scandal -- it literally became abundantly clear that rich people were buying their way to (academic) success. Psh. No surprise there.

But the media tried to sway the conversation into one about race -- how there are black mothers who lie about their address in order to qualify for a better school and they’re doing is trying to create a better opportunity for their child, just like how white people pay to get into IV leagues.

This isn’t an issue of race. This is an issue of class.

They will literally throw us plenty of “confetti ammunition: Gender, weight, sex, race, religion, whatever, all to keep us distracted from the real core issue: an unfair distribution of resources and over-competition for them as well as lack of human connection and empathy.

They want you DISTRACTED. They want you thinking about what separates us, rather than what brings us together.

The distractions are everywhere too, beyond just our identities.

They want you entertained with all these TV shows, video games, and of course, social media so you don’t take the time for self-reflection and human connection.

Heck, couples nowadays go out to dinner and stare at their phones. Families talk to their followers rather than each other.

We’re living in a virtual world during our free time and rarely, if ever, experience the world around us.

Lay down alone on your couch. Don’t turn on Netflix or your Xbox or Switch or Playstation or anything - just for a night. Turn it all off and unplug the truly and completely relax, without any distractions.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t do these things -- playing video games or watching tvshows/movies. (As a matter of fact, find a way to make them profitable when you do participate in such awesome endeavors -- blog or make videos, create content based on your interests. Heck you can just turn on a microphone and camera and stream your game play or movie reaction. Simple.) I’m saying you shouldn’t let those things actually distract you from self fulfillment or remove you from your focus and pathway to success. Live in the world instead of trying to escape it all the time.

There’s a live, breathing world around us and the people that surround you are *real* people, not just labels of whatever they identify as or you judge them as


Furthermore, they want us to remain uneducated and take knowledge for granted.

What is knowledge any more when we have Google in our pockets? Anything you know or could know can be discovered within seconds from our smart phones. There is a greater wisdom and insight that we are capable of though.

We’ve just become reliant on letting our phones and computers do all the thinking; it concerns me that at some point our own thoughts may be replaced with lines of code.

We, as a society have stopped thinking for ourselves and have become so determined to gain the external, material benefit of things, rather than the internal, self-fulfilling ones, the substance that makes us very well human.

Fulfillment is not instant and you don’t see it as a red bubble when you attain it. Those colors, by the way, the red and the blue, were specifically designed to trigger certain emotions in the brain.

Psychologically, the blue gives a sense of calmness and welcoming, while the red (bubble pop up) instigates a sense of alertness and powerful. It makes us feel powerful  when we get likes. The more likes we get, the more powerful we feel.

Ex- Facebook employees have confirmed these facts. They’ve confirmed that the very structure of the platform was not to “connect” people, but to get them addicted -- to have them spend as much of their time as possible browsing the platform and sharing their oh so juicy data, all while being trained to seek instant gratification and results.

People that seek instant gratification and instant results are the best customers -- the easiest to sell to.

They are not only collecting your data, figuring out who you are, but also subtly training you to be more likely to consume.

They want you to be a worker droid who’s programmed to work, work, WOOORRRRK, then buy, buy BUYYYYY.


This is why we must slow down, like a sloth, and not seek instant gratification. It’s not something we need to survive nor is it even a way to reach true happiness. Happiness is not anything material and success never comes instantly -- a fact procrastinators understand.

Your mind is being programmed to be a fast-paced worker droid that relies on a network to verify information (Internet/Google/Siri), rather than think for yourself. You are being turned more machine like every day by focusing on the materialistic world, rather than the inner-mind. Escape yo your own “Lazy Island”.

Free your mind and procrastinate. Put off gratification and wait for a bigger pay off. Success takes time to build. Quality relationships take time to build. Take the time to connect to people, instead of rushing to satisfy your craving for attention or sex or whatever. Take the time to move towards success and don’t expect to get it quickly.

The general population is  no longer has a desire for genuine connection, instead they are after saying the words that’ll earn them the most likes, the most little red bubbles, the most approval.

They want to separate us -- to see *each other* as less than human, to see the person that disagrees with you as less than human, instead of an actual human being who just so happens to hold a different set of beliefs.

This “work hard” mantra is social conditioning to become less human and more like a robot designed to carry out tasks without question and without connecting with fellow robots, who used to be human as well.

We only get one life. One. That’s it

If we rush through it, then we will never take the time to see the beauties and life and feel the sensations. We will never experience actually living. We will never have a real connection, just artificial ones.

I’m here to LIVE not exist. I’m here to learn and grow, not settle. I’m here to connect and share with others on a deep level.

People are so worried and concerned about “making a living” and “getting likes” that they forget to actually LIVE!

The owners of this world don’t want people to live. They want worker droids who...

• provide labor and profit for companies through hard work and consumption

 

• Spend all their earned hard wages on buying things instead of building wealth

 

• Seek social approval and “likes” so that the rich can build a herd mindset and use it to drive propaganda

 

• fight amongst themselves and blame each other for their own mishaps, instead of work together to fight against their *real* oppressor -- the rich owners

 

• see leisure and laziness as a bad thing to be avoided in order to increase company productivity

 

• Spend what  little leisure time they receive on distractive things instead of on learning, self--improvement, connecting to others or connecting with nature

 

• And fear failure because success doesn’t come instantly

They want to destroy every fiber in our being that makes us human. Know this and start to live life on your own terms, doing what you want, whenever you want. There’s no rush.

Stay human and keep on procrastinating.





LAZINESS MAKES YOU HUMAN

I like to take things nice and slow. I’m a procrastinator; I’ll always wait for later.I’m proud of the fact that I’m not on board with this “get it now” mindset. I practice the L.A.Z.Y. Mindset, one of calm, peaceful, serenity

I don’t experience “FOMO” because I live my own life and don’t really care what other people are doing or what they think about the things I’m doing.

I’m not chasing after instant gratification, either, because that doens’t lead to true happiness or fulfillment. I take my successes as they come and roll through my failures and learn from them.

Take a step back, relax, and enjoy the ride. Don’t fall under the pressure of what society expects from you.

All they want from you, the elite rich people who own this whole system, is to be a hard worker and enthusiastic consumer. They want you to work your ass off and then spend that money to buy things that you don’t really need. Once you realize this, once you *see* how they value your labor and your dollar over your humanity, you can walk away and find your own path to success and happiness.

Don’t fear failure along the way just because you’re not getting “instant” success. Real success doesn’t come in an instant; real success comes...later.

Take it easy. Take it REEAAAL easy,

N8