Man, people can get bothered so easily.
I mean something slightly bad will happen, and they’ll make it out to be the end of the world. This may be something you’re guilty of too. Getting bothered big by little shit.
You get stuck in traffic, you have to wait in a long line at check out, you step in a pile of dog shit on your way to the store. Shit happens (literally and figuratively).
And all the sudden, you’re complaining in your head about how that particular situation you got yourself caught up in is ruining your day, how this sucks and you can’t believe it’s this way, how it’s so terrible and why can’t things be better, and you go on and on, ruminating in feelings of discontent and dissatisfaction.
And sure, it can be quite irritating to have to stand in line for so long, for example. I mean not only is it boring to have to just stand there with your thumb up your ass. Maybe you’re tired, maybe your feet hurt, maybe you haven’t eaten yet and are feeling the pains of hunger rumble in your stomach. All these aching feelings of displeasure come to surface.
But just because things suck, just because you’re experiencing bad feelings or physical sensations, doesn’t mean you have to let it bother you.
You must remain calm, despite the turmoil you may be experiencing.
When you make things a bother, you’re making them a a bigger deal than they really are. And as we talked about earlier in the blog, it ain’t a big deal, dude. Really, it’s not.
See, things may be upsetting. They may be stressful or otherwise plain shitty. There’s no doubt about that. But when you make the sucky things a bother, then you’re only making matters worse. Just because you feel stress IN, doesn’t mean you need to stress OUT
The procrastin8r isn’t bothered by things. He is unfazed, remaining cool, calm, and laid back at all times.
Making a huge fuss out of things, and letting the mishaps in life actually become a bother to you, for one, doesn’t actually offer a viable solution to the situation. And for another, takes a lot of energy to deal with. Not the lazy way at all. Extra effort and energy is not the path of the lazy man.
You can’t choose what happens to you, but you can choose whether or not it will actually become a bother to you. Today, we’re going to take a look at how and why you shouldn’t let shit bother you.
It’s a topic, we’ve touch based on this sort of topic in the past; not getting bothered is essentially not giving a fuck , but we’re gonna take an even deeper look, and without further ado, let’s dive...right into it.
It’s Whatever, man.
“Whatever: that’s the word you want to use in reaction to any sort of set back, dilemma, or irritation. Keep your cool man, and whatever it is, say whatever.
Whatever means “Honey badger don’t care”. It is what it is and it ain’t much of a bother to you.
The more you try to think about it, the more you try to complain about it, then the more of a struggle you make it for yourself. Life isn’t about avoiding struggle. Struggle is inevitable, but there’s no rhyme or reason to struggle over a struggle.
A struggle is just that. It’s whatever. It’s no big deal. It’s part of life.
Left your keys at the bar and now your locked out of your house? Whatever.
Forgot where you put your wallet? Whatever.
Had your computer crash? Whatever.
“Whatever” must become your new approach to life. You can’t let things get to you. You gotta just shrug it off with a “whatever” and move on.
Whatever is acceptance. Accepting the way things are, as shitty as they may be. It’s not saying “Oooh I really like this.” No. It’s saying “Alright, that’s how it’s gonna be then,” and just going with it, going with the flow, without really making a really huge fuss over it at all.
You may not like it. You may not appreciate it. But you accept it. Just the way things are.
SO WHAT if it’s not what you want? SO WHAT if things didn’t go according to the plan. SO WHAT if it absolutely SUCKS? SO WHAT?
It’s whatever. At the end of the day, it doesn’t affect you. It has no impact. It holds no weight.
Letting something bother you and really dig deep under your skin does nothing but set you back even further. It may be uncomfortable or heck, even stressful to deal with, but stressing about your stress just creates more stress and being uncomfortable with your discomfort just creates more discomfort.
Let the stress, discomfort, or otherwise SHIT in your life just be that. Nothing more, nothing less. It is what it is. It’s whatever.
When things get hectic, when things get out of hand, when you’re slammed with a series of unfortunate and unpredictable events that make you want to turn for a loop, keep calm. Don’t freak out.
You gotta stay total Dude, you gotta stay unfazed.
Unfazed is the attitude and mindset you want to be able to achieve.
To remain unfazed is to abide. It’s not let shit bother you, in the least bit. You’re good, no matter what comes about. You’re chill (on the inside) no matter how hot and heavy things may seem.
To remain unfazed is to keep on...keeping on regardless.
You have to approach life with such a nonchalance, a sprezzatura if you will, that nothing seems like a lot of effort to deal with.
You embrace a tranquil sloth aura, completely calm in whatever situation arises, unfazed by predicaments, unfazed by setbacks.
It doesn’t ruffle your feathers or work you up. Nothing does...it’s whatever.
Unfazed is confidence and maturity. It demonstrates power. It shows you have control over your emotions and not your emotions over you.
When you’re unfazed by emotional turmoil, you can deliberately decide the best course of action to take, rather than wind up firing off in some rageful spite of uncontrolled emotions.
Being unfazed is key to embracing your laziness. After all, if you are phased by shit, that means ya gotta put effort into ranting and raving over it, a lot more effort than necessary, and as you know, dishing out more effort than necessary is no lazy way to handle things.
Being unfazed allows you to save energy for what’s actually important, like, I don’t know dealing with the issue, solving it, instead of getting all worked up about it, bitchin’ and complaining but not doing a goddamn thing to actually fix it or make it better.
If you want to come out on top of whatever pitfall you find yourself in, you have to remain unfazed by the very fact that you’re in a hole. Climb out slow n’ steady. Don’t cry your heart out about how dark the hole is. Just get out of it.
Complaining doesn’t solve anything, nor does stressing out or worrying about it.
Worry is the bane of your problems, not the problem itself. Remain unfazed when facing a problem and they’ll soon disappear. Insist that the problem is overbearing, on the other hand, and you’ll find your problem beginning to linger for way longer than you had intended.
Problems come and go. It’s all part of the flow. Don’t be phased by any sort of problem, no matter how shitty it may seem.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: If shit’s in your toilet, just flush it down. Don’t let it sit in the bowl.
Flush the shit down, unfazed by its existence and move on with life. That’s the way of the Dude. That’s the way of the procrastin8r.
Do things regardless. Regardless of consequences, regardless of criticism, regardless of set backs or problems.
The minute you take regard to an issue, the minute you let it bother you, is the minute you stop moving forward, and you know you must keep moving forward ever steady and ever slowly.
Regardless of what happens, take it easy, man. Don’t make things hard on yourself by getting worked up about it. Don’t put a heavier burden on your shoulder by worrying about it, by letting it bother you.
See, the more you take regard to something, the more you think about it in a negative way, the more drained you’ll feel. You don’t want to feel drained all the time. You want to feel relaxed, easy-going, like nothing’s a big deal and it’s all good.
Live life regardlessly. Don’t get too attached to a certain outcome or let it bother you when it doesn’t. Abide regardless and remain unfazed by shit.
Only Your Mind is Bothersome
Step back. Take a deep breath. Yawn. Breathe.
Look at the big picture here. See it all. See it from a bird’s eye view, an outside perspective from the universal standpoint.
Whatever shit just happened, whether it's losing your keys or getting your card declined or getting rejected by someone you asked out, whatever the fuck just happened, realize this, realize that it’s such a minuscule part of the whole thing. You ain’t the center of the universe and the things that happen to you aren’t in any way, shape, or form a fundamental consequence that’s completely detrimental to the world at large.
It’s just a little happening, a small event, a tiny incy wincy thing that just so happened to occur.
Sure, you were there and got to experience it, first handedly, but to make it out like the Earth revolves around you and your own experience is blind and selfish. You’re stuck in your own Ego man, and gotta cool it.
The shit that just happened isn’t bothersome at all. What’s bothersome are your own thoughts, your own words, your own inner-voice inside your head. You’re, in a sense, bothered by your own mind.
You’re torturing yourself and the events taking place, as negative as they might be, aren’t the torture device.
Fortunately for you, your mind is something you control (at least one would hope -- it is something you can control, at the very least).
The worrisome thoughts, the obsessive feeling that whatever it is just happened bothers you, that all takes place within your own mind. You are letting your own mind bother you, hurt you, fill you with woe and self-loathing and pity.
You’re making your own self suffer. In life there are grievances, there are struggles, but to suffer from it, to allow those tragedies to hurt you and perpetually torture you, that is something you have the conscious power to decide not to do.
You have the conscious power to not be bothered, the conscious power to not put yourself through hell.
You can instead live in peace, peace with what happened, peace with the way things are. Peace means you’re okay with it, not necessarily that you like it or want it to be that way. It means you’re simply NOT fighting against it, because when we think peace we think lack of violence and war.
By creating bothersome, worrisome thoughts you are warring against yourself, you’re battling against the truth and remember, the truth is the ONE thing you should NOT procrastinate on.
Acceptance is key to unlocking the truth -- being absolutely and completely OKAY with everything EXACTLY the way it is, in the present.
Stop fighting against the truth. Wishing it were different, lying to yourself that “it can’t be”. Fully embrace the truth.
Let the truth be. It’s whatever, man.
Take it easy,