And like a mattress, you can certainly sleep on one without a bed frame, but without one, you won’t have the same level of support and comfort compared to sleeping with one. You need the frame for full comfort. Otherwise, you’ll be wakin’ up with sores.

That is to say, you need the mental frame to support the body (mattress) or you’ll end up kinda regrettin’ it. I mean maybe you can “fake it ‘til you make it” sort of thing. Ya know, like put on a whole performance but not really feel it on the inside.

Maybe you can pretend to be LAZY and not actually be LAZY until you actually sort of adopt the thoughts within your head.

 But I suggest you take the slower path. It’s a lot less hard work and a lot more rewarding, though it takes more time.  It minimizes effort and maximizes results. Become LAZY within and you’ll be able to demonstrate that on the outside.

Your actions (or inactions) are a reflection to what’s inside. Even if you do the things a lazy man does, the underlying non-lazy person will peak its head through the surface. 

Your stressful, hardworking, anxious, and insecure self will manifest itself into doing quite the opposite of what you intend, quite the opposite of LAZY. You can’t help it. It’s part of who you are. You’ll freak out. Lose control of your emotions. You’ll pressure yourself on deadlines instead of believing better late than never. You’ll work hard without a break and wear yourself thin.

You’ll slip back to your old ways of being that corporate little slave you’ve been trained to be, no matter what behaviors you’ve been trying to force out of yourself, no matter what lazy things you’ve been doing. Your mask will crack and you’ll have to come to terms with the fact that you haven’t changed, that underneath you’ve been lying to yourself.
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That said, it’s good to have an end goal. It’s good to know how you should be acting in any given situation -- that way you know you’ve got a strong mentality. Ideally, if anything, once you’ve adapted the right frame of mind, put up the comfiest bed frame,it’ll just sort of confirm what you already think. I want you to be able to say “That’s how I WOULD handle that” , not that’s how I SHOULD.

 The behaviors I suggest in the Z and Y modules will seem rather obvious with a firm L and A in tact, but I want to give you a guideline on where you should aim to be at. Again, don’t start Zonking Out and Yawning until you’ve full embraced your Leisure and become Aloof.

Now with that out of the way, let’s take a look at our final module of the LAZY Mindset: Yawn...




Yawning is something we all do, procrastin8r or not. When we’re tired, we yawn. When we’re bored, we yawn. When someone else yawns, we yawn. It’s contagious, as we’ll get to.

Yawning is something we often do, especially in the mornings, whether we’re consciously aware of it or not. But it’s a lot more fascinating than other human bodily functions like a burp, cough, or sneeze because the

All these functions serve a purpose for a healthy body.

Burping and farting relieves gas pressure in your digestive system. Coughing clears your respiratory system. Sneezing clears out your sinuses.

But why do we yawn? What function does that serve? Does it serve any purpose at all or is it just...pointless.

One might assume that Yawning stems directly from tiredness. Great, so if I yawn I know I’m tired. But dammit, I don’t need to yawn for that. I can feel it anyway!

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​Yawning does serve a purpose though. Not just to warn us of our own exhaustion.  In fact, it probably does more to your mental health than any sort of physical benefits it might have. Yawning is a necessity.

But unlike the typical corporate wage slave who uses the yawn to express “ Shit, we should get paid more for overtime” as he groggily looks at his coworker, the procrastin8r uses the yawn to say “Ah, life is good.”

See, yawning relieves tension. It creates a sense of...calm.  Yawning is the physical cue  to tell yourself to “just relax, man and take it easy.” That’s not just philosophy form the library of Lazy Island. That’s real science!

Let's dive into it!

Yawning puts you in a relaxed state of mind. It cools your head. Literally.

Scientists have found that Yawning decreases brain temperature, meaning the more you yawn, the more likely you are to act Aloof to emotions and not get so hot headed. You remain cool and laid back no matter how heavy shit hits the fan. Nothing fires you up easily.

Worse day ever? Whatever. Life gets you down? Meh. Not today. Yawn and stay aloof to the consequences of bad choices or unpredictable events. Of course you’re aware of the negative shit, but you don’t let it “heat you up” and consume you. You cool yourself off with a deep breath and a long, satisfying yawn.

You realize whatever solution there is, worrying about it isn’t it.

Let out all that stress, all that tension in one single breath. Breathe. It’s okay. You’ve got this. No matter how terrible things are, give a good yawn and move on.

When you yawn, you think and act slower.
So maybe you yawn if you’re tired, but so what? Being tired has its benefits, ya know?

Like, for one thing, you move a lot slower. And as you probably already heard, slow n’ steady wins the race.

Slow doesn’t mean dense nor does it mean stupid. It means what it means and just that: slow.

Taking your your time, not being in a hurry. Letting troubles come and go without trying to live too fast.

Look, there’s no rush. Period. Ever. 

Deadlines, due dates, obligations -- those are all arbitrary. Slow it down. All will be fine...eventually.

Yawn and remind yourself to take time in Leisure and actually enjoy yourself. Slow it down and live in the present. Stop worrying about (and trying to rush towards) the future. Take your time, man.


 Slower means more focused. Everything you do is deliberate, precise. You take aim and shoot for a goal and don’t just run in trigger happy guns ablazin. You’re smart. Strategic. Slow.
You don’t get all sporadic or “worked up”. You simmer down, take your time, and make decisions based on the best course of action, not immediate gratification of your emotions. You Yawn to take a second to cool off and breathe, procrastinate, then act on logical decisions, not emotional reaction.

You take the time (slowly) to understand your emotions but don’t let them let you jump to make a decision.

All actions you take are Slow, Smooth, and Deliberate (SSD), like a real sloth. Let the sloth be your spirit guide. Embrace its aura in your own nature. Be the sloth! Be slow and go with the flow.



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Yawning gives you an energy boost, like caffeine

Scientists have also found that yawning not only cools your brain temperature but also increases blood flow to your brain, making you more alert.

It gives you a bit of boost in energy; similar chemicals release in the brain as  drinking a good cuppa Joe.

Olympic athletes often yawn before races, not because they’re tired. They’re plenty rested. I mean they ain’t gonna show up as a hardcore athlete to participate  the biggest sporting event in the world while exhausted. No.

They do it because it puts them in an alert state of mind. Calm yet alert, able to act with decisiveness. Yawning eliminates grogginess and makes you aware of your surroundings.

Yawning is not your body falling asleep. It’s your body waking itself up. Yawn when you need to put yourself back in the present and wake yourself up to the current surroundings. Whether it’s a big interview, fancy date, whatever. Just yawn to relieve any sort of uptight nervousness you might be feeling and give you that boost of confidence you need to tackle whatever it is that’s holding you back.

The cure to nervousness is a nice relaxed yawn.


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Wrapping Up:
While Yawning is something physical you can do, it’s more of a crutch, a tool, to use to get you in the right state of mind. Yawn to remind yourself of the way you should think and act. Yawn to embrace your inner-sloth. 

Just like a smoker might snap themselves with a rubber band every time they crave a cigarette to help quit smoking, you are going to yawn to help quit your hard working mindset, to remind yourself to lay back and take it easy in times of strife.

Yawn, not because you’re sleepy. Yawn because you’re relaxed. Yawn because you’re LAZY.

Yawning is a physical cue for yourself to be LAZY, It just has the bonus benefit of literally cooling your brain to  get you to calm down and increasing blood flow to your brain to get you to focus.

Be relaxed. That’s the key to confidence, the key to getting what you want and getting away with it. Yawn your way to confidence. Yawn your way to success.

Every conflict that arises, just yawn and you’ll be able to approach it with poise and grace as well as focus. Every opportunity, yawn, and you won’t get nervous or worry about it. You’ll remain Aloof to any sort of negative feeling, able to stay laid back and cool-headed (literally).

In your free time, Yawn, and fully embrace your Leisure. Really put aside any sort of goal and just enjoy the thing you’re doing

Yawn before you Zonk Out too, so you’re steady and firm in walking away and don’t angrily just storm off instead.

Yawn all your worries away. Be a true procrastin8r. You're laziness will be contagious.
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The L.A.Z.Y. Mindset.  It’s the mental framework of a professional sloth. That’s right: a PRO-crastinator! It helps you achieve success in your business, relationships, and personal life using as little effort as possible 

Of course, there are many books and blogs written that cover such information. No doubt, I’m not the first person to write about such a topic. You could go ahead and Google “how to be successful the easy way” or similar terms.

But what you’ll find is an overload of information. It can be confusing and overwhelming. You’ll find it doesn’t quite make it seem so simple after all -- just the pure amount of details you’ll be pouring over and trying to organize in your head can be quite staggering.




None of the information out there really condenses “how to be successful” for the lazy man in such a way that makes it...actually simple. It’s as if you need to work hard to figure out how to NOT work hard. Ridiculous.

We, as procrastinators, don’t want to work hard, for anything, yet alone figuring out how to do shit. All we want is simple, easy to follow information. The less effort required, the better.

So that is my goal -- to provide you with easy, no bullshit or fluff info that will help you sleep your way to success.

In saying that, we use an acronym because, well, acronyms make it easy to memorize large amounts of information. Rather than working hard to try and study specifics, we simply look at things from a broad perspective and see everything deep inside. In other words, you’ll be able to remember the details of an entire module just by thinking of the letter that it coordinates with.

You put loads of information into separate “containers”, separate modules, that is, the letters of the acronyms, and can easily access that information for later.  







You’re not thinking of all these “if/then” scenarios or calculating accurate steps to take.You simply remember to be LAZY and know the ways to think, act, and speak in any given situation. See it’s not about thinking or working hard, it’s about thinking and working smart. Lazy is smart. It’s the act of minimizing effort and maximizing results. Lazy people find easy way to do things.

LAZY is a way of life. It’s a system, a mindset. The word itself, “LAZY” denotes the overall theme or underlying principle of each step in the module. While each letter module of course has its own set of principles, the foundation of being “LAZY” helps you understand those particulars. In trying to attain Leisure, for example, you are also trying to be Lazy. In trying to be Aloof, you, likewise, are trying to be Lazy and so on and so forth.

LAZY is the dough of the pizza and each specific letter is the different toppings. We basically have a recipe for Cowbunga success.
If you want to understand the basics of this mindset, grab your FREE copy of the e-book. That right there is enough information and all you need.

This article is designed to give you further insight and help you really grasp what it means to be LAZY.

A few weeks back, we took a deep dive into the first module, Leisure, detailing why it’s important to rejuvenate yourself and how to actually go about doing it.







Now, continuing our deep-dive into the LAZY Mindset, we’re gonna take a look at the second module: Aloofness.

You may hear that word and think it’s something bad. You know, there’s this idea that being aloof means you have to be an asshole. Look, you don’t have to be an asshole, at least not a complete asshole. You just have to...not care.

And  I don’t mean don’t care at all. That would be a complete asshole. I just mean don’t care about bullshit. Care about things that actually matter and remain unfazed by drama or crisis. 

I mean, the asshole has attractive qualities. It’s why the girls date him and he always seems to get his way. What is it about him that draws people in?

Well, for one, He doesn’t give a fuck. He’s aloof. Nothing gets on his nerves or brings him down. Heck, people even call him an asshole and he just doesn’t seem to give a little bit of a fuck about it.

While the asshole is not exactly a role model, he does have some redeeming qualities about him. He does what he wants and doesn’t give a fuck what anyone else thinks or says. That’s admirable, honestly.

But you can’t be so selfish (of an asshole) that you don’t even consider how your words and actions affect other people. On the contrary, people are often too concerned about how what they do affects others, the typical “people pleaser”

The key is to be somewhat of an asshole. Never go full asshole. Or full people pleaser for that matter. That’s like going full retard. Balance is what you want.










Being Aloof means not giving a fuck

Giving a fuck means you put time, money, and energy in it -- those are the ways you can “give a fuck”. In life, there are a limited amount of fucks you can give. 

It’s not that you don’t give a fuck about anything. You have to give a fuck about something. It’s that you give a fuck about a limited amount of things and those in which are actually important to YOU, not other people.

It’s a Honey Badger Don't Care attitude, where you're focused on getting what you want and “don’t care” about approval or recognition. 

You are Aloof to expectations and obligations and are instead key lined focused on desire.










To be Aloof is to be calm and stoic

You do not get overly eager or excited, nor do you get overly upset. Emotions remain in control. You may not control what happens or how you feel, but you do control your reaction to it. 

You are steady in your reactions to things, no matter how hectic, never jolting into an emotional outburst because you feel that way. You take the logical approach towards issues and rationally decide the best path to take. You recognize your emotions and what they’re telling you, but don’t allow them to overcome you. You stay aloof to their influence. You procrastinate a decision in order to think of the best way to handle things, rather than letting fiery emotions explode and cause more chaos than the initial dilemma even entailed.

You have a laid-back attitude towards whatever life throws at you, no matter how much it sucks, and just go with the flow, taking waves as they come, completely aloof to the rapids as you stay balanced and centered.









Aloofness is solitude
You are comfortable being in your own presence and don’t need other people to feel fulfilled and worthy. You feel fulfilled and worthy on your own (and that coincidentally attracts high quality people in your life)

You’re not approval-seeking or any sort of attention whore. You couldn’t care less what other people expect of you.You do your own thing, whether you’re joined by another company or not.

You are your own best friend, offering yourself reassurance in times of struggle and encouragement in times of triumph. You take time to mellow out alone and reflect on who you are and why you do the things you do. You are comfortable in your own skin, comfortable in your own bed.

You can’t love anyone else until you truly love yourself, and you love yourself. You’re damn awesome. You have to believe that.

Accept your flaws. Flaunt your strengths.  Be aloof to any sort of social expectations and just be you.












Aloofness is a carefree attitude

Carefree doesn’t mean you don’t care at all. It means you care about important shit, not trivial stresses that come about in everyday life. You don’t worry. Period.

You don’t worry about what you did wrong, what could go wrong soon. You may think about it. You may consider it. Briefly. But you don’t ruminate over it, nonstop. You don’t let it consume your thoughts. You don’t ...worry about a thing.

The past is the past and the future is unwritten. You live fully and completely in the present, carefree and aloof to any other part of the timeline.

You follow the Rip Van Winkle rule. If what you’re worried about won’t matter when you wake up from a nap in 20 years, then don’t spend more than 20 minutes thinking about it.

He who cares least is the one in control. And you must care least.

You aren’t attached to a specific outcome of anything. Whatever happens, happens. You go with the damn flow and let bygones be bygones.  

If you fuck up, you don’t feel like a fuck up. You take what you learned with a grain of salt and level up, become better. You see mistakes as something you did, not as a definition of your person. Mistakes are Meh, and that’s the attitude you take.

You feel no pressure to think, act, and behave in a certain way.  You are aloof and carefree towards any sort of rules. Rules are just “suggestions” in your book and you use them to your own discretion.












Aloofness is non-commital

You’re not inclined to be deadset on one company or person. You value your own principles over loyalty

I mean, heck you’re here on this blog because you likely want to leave your day job. Doesn’t show much loyalty there. You’re not committed to a job. You’re not committed to your boss. Given the opportunity, you’d quit, if you haven’t already.

And why? Because you want to do your own thing. You want to abide by your own way of life, and that is aloofness.

Have commitment towards principles, ideas, not people.

Be true to yourself and people will want to commit to you, not the other way around. The stronger you abide by your own way, that is, the more aloof you are to anything else but your own beliefs and ideas, then the stronger people will feel compelled to follow your lead.

That’s not to say you are “disloyal” to the point where you cheat on someone or backstab them by doing something ugly. You make your principles clear from the very beginning of the relationship (whether its platonic, romantic, or professional) and don’t let people fuck with you by breaking them.

The goal is not to find someone willing to commit to you. The goal is to find someone willing to commit to your principles. And if they don't, it's no big deal. You’ve got your principles intact and didn’t kiss up and change just to please them.

Have commitment towards a purpose instead of a relationship. It doesn’t have to be a huge passion or anything, just something you like. But have something that has you wake up every day (typically around noon). Have a reason to enjoy your limited time here on this earth. Don’t make someone else your center. Be your own center.

If another person is your reason or something materialistic is, you need to dig deeper and find what it is you actually want. You need a better purpose. A purpose is not an object or person. Those are just...distractions.

Be aloof to distractions.










If you are Aloof, you do your own thing, regardless of judgement
 People are gonna judge you. Hard.

Ain’t everybody gonna like you or agree with you. Haters gonna hate. Whatever man. Just kick on back and let ‘em say waht they’re going to say. Shit’s like leaves off a sloth’s back.

 Don’t just “act” aloof to it. BE aloof.

Stop giving a fuck about other people’s opinions. They don’t matter. Not a single thing a person says is gonna change your life, unless you let it. Don’t let bullshit get to you, dude.

If people hate on you, it means you’re doing something right. If everybody agrees with you or likes you, either they want something out of you (money, a favor, etc.) or there’s some oversight you’re missing and you’re wrong.

Likewise, if everybody disagrees with you, then they all probably have a point and you ought put your damn Ego to the side for a second to figure what the fuck it is.

Some people are gonna love you. Some people are gonna hate you. You want to achieve that sort of balance between overs and haters. If not everybody is happy with what you’re doing, but some people are, that means there’s something you’re doing right.

The minute you try to please everybody is the minute you please nobody. Don’t be a people-pleaser and remain aloof to how your decisions make you look in the eyes of others. Earlier we talked about how being a little bit of an asshole can be a good thing. Well, be that asshole and let people think that of you.

 Remember, every time you say NO to one thing, you are saying YES to another. Choose what you say YES to carefully and don’t feel obligated to say yes just to please someone else, just to tell them what they want to hear and avoid being called an asshole. Be frank about your NO and say it. Mean it.

Truth is, you’re not being the asshole. They are! For expecting you to hold a certain opinion or do something the way they want. But you don’t have to argue that or make that point; don’t actually do that. Instead, let it slide and tell them to hop off.










While Aloof, you do things on your terms

You do whatever you want, whenever you want to do it, and however you decide you’re doing it. You don’t volunteer or participate in activities you hold absolutely no interest in doing, nor do you do it at a time that’s inconvenient for you.

Morning meeting? Nah bro. Not for me. I’m good. Let’s shoot for the late afternoon, early evening instead.

You let people adapt their schedule to yours and don’t arrange your life to meet other people’s schedules. You’re in charge of your own time and don’t allow other people to attempt to take charge of it.

Anything people want from you is merely a suggestion and not some sort of bound obligation. You never feel obligated to do anything. Anything you do do comes from a place of desire.

You are Aloof to the idea that you “should” do something. You don’t should yourself. Gross. You instead “want” something and do it.







You remain mysterious while Aloof

You can’t be such an open book that you’re sharing everything about yourself -- all your inner thoughts and feelings Calm yourself man. That’s some needy ass behavior right there.

You can’t be so open about your feelings that people see right through you.

On the flip side, u don’t want to remain so closed off that people feel like they CAN’T get to know you, but give “just enough” information about yourself that people stay interested. 

Ya know like watching a good streaming series and at the end of the episode it leaves a little cliffhanger and you’re left with the words “To be continued…” and you’re like “WHAT!? No, I gotta know what happens next!”

You want to achieve the same type of reaction here. Build up suspense.










Being Aloof means you are uninterested by drama

People gossip. People escalate things emotionally. You’re above that. Your life is a drama free zone.

You don’t participate in shouting matches. You stay calm. You don’t act passive aggressive, because you’re honest and upfront with your principles. You set clear boundaries.

You take the time and let people say their piece but don’t stoop down to their level of getting overwhelmed by their excessively emotional reaction.

You’ll make people think “gee, maybe I am bein a bit over-the top, aren’t I?” because you remain so calm and level headed, aloof, to any sort of drama they try to stir. They’re left with no choice but to take a step back and look at just how immature they’re acting.

You don’t rely on name-calling or bringing up things just to hurt another person. That’s all for non-lazy people who get “worked up” easily. You don’t work at all. You’re lazy.

Instead, you address an issue calmly, clearly, and firmly.











You don’t want to be Cold. Just Aloof

Now when it comes to being aloof, there’s a fine line between being Aloof and being distant/cold. 

Being cold means you’re rather ruthless.

You can’t be so uncaring that you become sort of heartless in your approach. You have to allow room for some flexibility.

The idea is to not let other people walk over you,but in the same vein, not to walk all over other people. You want people to respect you, not necessarily fear you.

Be charming. Aloof enough to let people know they shouldn’t fuck with you or try to take advantage of you, but caring enough to show you’re not a complete asshole.






Just abide and do your own thing REGARDLESS.

Regardless of what?

Just regardless. Period.

Regardless of consequences. Regardless of disapproval. Regardless of hate. Regardless of fill in the blank.

Stay Aloof and do whatever. Regardless.


- N8
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Hey man, shit don’t last forever. But that’s okay. It’s not about making something last, but about making the most of it while it’s here. You just go with the flow and enjoy the ride on waves while it lasts.



Today’s loss is not tomorrow’s misfortune.

In fact, every time you lose something, you gain something else. “Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end” (cue: Semisonic).

But seriously, while nothing holds eternal permanence,  the end (of whatever) creates opportunity.

Live in the moment. Experience the pain (of loss). Because that too won’t last forever.

You can’t even be lazy forever. I mean, maybe for the rest of your life but certainly not “forever”. After all, your time on this earth is limited. Just embrace your laziness while you’re here, takin it easy, slow n’ steady, one day at a time.

Today won’t last forever and neither will tomorrow. Enjoy those days while you have it and think to yourself today “I hope this lasts forever” to put yourself in the present and actually LIVE...while you can.


Forever is an interesting word. By its textbook definition it means, literally, “always”. It’s something that will be there endlessly, no matter what. There’s this *idea* that forever is something that sticks around, regardless of changes. But things do change and that causes the thing that was supposed to be “forever” to be put to a stop, despite the fact that “forever”, by its very definition is, well, unstoppable.


 In reality, the word seems to mean “until it’s done” more often than not. Forever doesn’t quite encompass the permanence it sets out to be. It is more of an expression of appreciating what’s happening in the given moment, as opposed to any sort of eternal contract. Forever is as fleeting as the moment it takes to say the word.

I mean how often have you been told “I want to be with you forever”, only to watch that person walk away as soon as they felt done or tired with the relationship?

How often have you said "best friends forever" only to never see that person again.

How often have you thought to yourself that you “hope this lasts forever” only to later, in due time, see it fade away?




Forever is a timeline we’re incapable of achieving as human beings. Nothing lasts forever. Everything lasts for just a moment and all comes to an end at some point. Even *life itself* is nothing but a brief moment in time.

You literally can’t do anything or have everything forever because we all gon’ die some day. We are mortal beings, and thus, our very existence cannot and will not last forever. For us to imagine that anything we experience will last “forever” is clear cut delusional. Given the matter of circumstance that our time here is not even forever, then so too is everything else we consciously experience.

Nothing is permanent, nothing is forever. You are NOT guaranteed anything in life, other than the fact that there will be change.

But we  use the word “forever” all the time. While it certainly doesn’t mean the definition “by the books” in any means, clearly, it does mean something.




So what does it mean when we say forever?

There has to be some sort of strong sentiment here. I mean, you only say that you hope something will last forever if it actually matters to you (or someone matters to you), not just a little bit, but a lot. “Forever” marks something as vital to us, even if it doesn’t actually, for lack of a better term, last forever.

The expression of “Forever” indicates that you are living fully in the present. It’s a way to say “I appreciate what’s happening right here, right now."

In the moment that you feel something could last forever, you are unbound by time. The past and the future doesn’t matter. After all if you were thinking about the past, then that is a time before the moment you wish to last forever (thus not present).  And if you were thinking about the future, you know it will inevitably come to an end, just like all things

Woah man you been on the mary jay dude; this is some deep shit.

Now it may sound depressing to think about how nothing is permanent in your life and could be gone in an instant, but only if you completely miss the point.

It is meant to be an inspiration to appreciate what you have at any given moment. Take nothing for granted. Live in “forever”. The moment you begin to wish every moment will last forever (even though you logically know it won’t) is the moment you begin to truly live.





Forever is the feeling of being alive. That’s what it really is. Every moment you have uttered the words “I wish this would last forever” is a moment you were actually living. You were experiencing what it’s like to be present in your surroundings as well as present in the emotions those surroundings brought to you.

Oftentimes this was a positive experience, a joyous one. We don’t sit there after the family cat died and say “I’d wish this would last forever”. No. It’s something we liked and found joy in.

As a procrastin8r, this moment usually comes when I first wake up. I want my sleep to “last forever”. Nothing is as comfortable or relaxing as lying in a nice warm bed. Sleep is the best feeling. At that moment, I’m engulfed in the present.

One of the reasons why negative experiences and emotions are so “hard” to deal with is because we don’t live in it. We don’t become present with our negative emotions, typically. Instead we shove them off and try to live in either the past or future when they arise.

We hold onto  loss of something in the past or worry about an issue coming in the future. You long for a life before that person was gone. You look forward to “moving on” eventually, so the pain will go away. What’s happening is you’re not being fully present. You’re not going with the flow and enjoying the ride for what it is.






Whether it's positive or negative, you have to tell yourself that “this is going to last forever.” Of course it won’t, but the idea is to accept the circumstances whatever they may be and really feel what’s going on, rather than long for a different set of feelings that lie in either the past or future.
How many times has shit hit the fan and you thought to yourself: “It’ll get better once I (blank).”

So often do we look forward to the improvements in the future that we forget to appreciate what we already have.

No matter what that “fill in the blank” is, there’s always another blank to fill its place. We’re always searching for something better. Our obsession with getting more - that much does last forever.

Maybe “it’ll get better” once you get that degree. But then “it’ll get better” once you get a job in your field. Then “it’ll get better” once you get that promotion. 

And it keeps going until you realize that you’ll never truly be satisfied.

You may get your dream job and become nostalgic about the time you didn’t have so much responsibility. You’ll look back and say:

“Man I wish that time before all this would have lasted forever. I didn’t know what I had back then.”

And right there. A moment. An epiphany. You’ve come to the realization that you weren’t living in the present.

If you’re not living (in the present), you’re killing yourself, slowly rotting until you’re put into a grave.

All that exists is right here, right now. All you need to have, all you need to be is already here. You just gotta appreciate it, dude.





They say “you don’t know what you got ‘til it’s gone” and it’s true. We end up taking for granted the things that actually fucking matter to us and just sort of...expected to always be there. But they aren’t always there.

In the past few months, during this global pandemic, we all lost something important to us or someone close to us. Things we thought would last forever are gone. People we thought that would always be around are not here anymore.

Businesses closed. Relationships failed. People literally died.

Pandemic or not, these things happen on a daily basis. But no doubt some little microscopic asshole went and fucked a lot of things up a lot faster than they normally would have.

If you follow some of my lazy moneymaking tips, you’ll know I recommend HYIPs as an easy passive income.

Well, in the past few days, one of the best High Yield Investment Programs (ever?) called Diversity Fund closed its doors. It sucks.

Now to put that in perspective, that’s like you’re average working Joe telling you they just took a pay cut. Not fun.

But that’s the way the cookie crumbles. Nothing lasts forever.

You can’t get attached to the way things are. You can only appreciate it while you have it.


Hope something will last forever, in the sense that you can be truly present with it. Don’t hope something will last forever in the sense that you expect it to never change.

Things can and will change.

Adapt to the changes by going with the flow. Kick back, relax, and enjoy the ride. It may not always be the same, but that’s part of the fun.

Life would be boring if things actually did last forever. I mean, c’mon man, “forever” is quite predictable. You’re not living if things are so predictable.

The thrill of living comes from unpredictability, even in times of despair.

If your ex breaks up with you, you may wind up finding an even better partner in the future that you never would have even met had you stuck in the old sour relationship.

If you lose your job, you may wind up becoming a lazy entrepreneur, instead of grinding 40 hours a week at the same boring desk job.


Today’s loss is not tomorrow’s misfortune.

In fact, every time you lose something, you gain something else. “Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end” (cue: Semisonic).

But seriously, while nothing holds eternal permanence,  the end (of whatever) creates opportunity.

Live in the moment. Experience the pain (of loss). Because that too won’t last forever.

You can’t even be lazy forever. I mean, maybe for the rest of your life but certainly not “forever”. After all, your time on this earth is limited. Just embrace your laziness while you’re here, takin it easy, slow n’ steady, one day at a time.

Today won’t last forever and neither will tomorrow. Enjoy those days while you have it and think to yourself today “I hope this lasts forever” to put yourself in the present.
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