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It’s a dream of us all to wake up one day and see our bank accounts flooded with a huge amount of money, to see our investment account overflowing with profit. Ah, wouldn’t it be nice to sit on a fat stack and not have to worry about paying the bills? Of course, last week, we talked about how “being rich” is all perspective. There are many riches you have in life that you may be taking for granted. You may be sitting on a “fat stack” of awesome friendships that someone with all the money in the world could never attain. Look around you and see how rich you already are.  Sure, the idea of driving a mercedes and owning a huge mansion may appear rich to you, but having something as simple as running water may appear rich to someone living out in a tent in the desert. One thing a man takes for granted is the exact thing another man desires. There are aspects in your life that are very much desirable, things in which you completely ignore or otherwise take for granted. You have to appreciate what you do have, for all its worth. Getting more (money, fame, or whatever) is not the solution to obtaining happiness, but being at peace with having “enough” is. You’ll never be satisfied with “enough” wealth in money if wealth in money is what you seek. You’ll always crave more and more no matter what the number is in your portfolio, as long as your happiness is reliant on seeing that number climb ever higher. There’s always a larger number and thus, always a reason to not be satisfied with what you already own. Strive to be lazy. Strive to be good enough. Having enough, feeling as if what you have is indeed enough, will allow you to feel self fulfillment. It will allow you to live life and not just exist to splurge on materialism. Plus, there are things that are not monetary in value that can “build your wealth”, things such as deep meaningful relationships with those you care about and inner peace. They are precious beyond the material world.  But today, I want to talk about “getting rich” in financial terms. Once you have accepted that what you have is indeed enough, it’s okay to want to level up your money situation. It’s okay to want more without obsessing over it. There is a difference between making a living and actually living. Your priority should not so much be determined about a dollar sign, but of something deeper and far superior. Real values, not materialistic ones. You must first come to terms with being poor. If you’re happy (financially) poor, you can be happy (financially) rich. Thing is, money won’t bring about happiness into your life. You can’t expect it to. It won’t happen. Once you’ve accepted that you’re not rich in money and that becoming so won’t lead to happiness, you can then take (slow n’ steady) steps towards actually increasing your personal wealth, which we’ll get to. Money becomes a part of life instead of the focus of it, and that’s the mentality you want to achieve. “It would be nice to have, but I don’t need it and it’s no big deal if I don’t get it.” You must fully come to grips with the fact that money doesn’t solve your own lack of happiness. Never has, never will. Happiness, to achieve that, all comes from within. Achieve satisfaction first, then get money, not the other way around. Remember no matter what that number is in your bank, seeing it any higher can’t and won’t make you any happier. Besides, it’s a hell of a lot lazier to be satisfied with just sitting there (with very little assets) than to work your ass off trying to achieve a large sum of wealth. Now with all that said, let’s say you’re ready to “get rich”. You’re cool with being poor and agree that more money would “certainly be nice.” You come here to this blog looking for a way to strike it rich real quick.  Well, I want to hand it to you straight: you ain’t gonna get rich quick. Not here. Not anywhere. I don’t have a way. No one does. And anyone that claims you can is full of shit. I swear if you come across another blog claiming they have a “super secret way” to get rich FAST, they’re probably trying to pull you into some sort of ponzi scheme or collect some sort of information for identity theft. Either way, seeing someone claim that “you can get quick” should be a red flag. I mean, really, think about it. If it was so EASY to make millions really really QUICKLY, we’d all be doing it. And no, there is no “secret formula” or whatever. And if there was, it’s very doubtful these people would be willing to share it publicly, yet alone sell it. Reall. C’mon now. If they have this “get rich quick formula” why not just use that formula instead of trying to sell it to people? Like, they already have the money, right? Something smells like bullshit. In reality, in order to get rich quick, it’s either gotta be something extremely lucky or extremely illegal. So unless you manage to win the lottery or successfully pull off a big bank heist, you’re looking at a method in which J.D. Roth likes to dub “Get Rich Slowly.” See, the fact of the matter is, it may be nearly impossible, it’s quite rare, to get rich quickly, but getting rich (again, in terms of finances) can happen over a long period of time, it can happen... slowly. Eventually. The way of a ProcrastiN8r. You know what they say, rich people STAY rich. And it’s not because they’re working their asses off day in and day out, something which we’re led to believe is the key to their financial success, oh no!  Rich people stay rich because they let their money make money for them Unless of course, they wind up blowing it on cocaine and hookers, most people who reach millionaire status, stay that way. That’s because they understand the basic lazy principle of “don’t work for money; let money work for you.” I mean do you think rich people slave away all day at doing tedious tasks? Hell to the NO. I mean that’s why they hire butlers and maids (and not to mention minimum wage workers) to take care of that shit for them. They sit on their lazy asses and profit. They make money passively. They make money easily. They make money by choosing to put it in the right places. See, getting rich (and staying that way) is not so much about hoarding dollar bills under your bed (or working hard for that matter). That actually doesn’t gain you any wealth. If anything, it makes you poorer. A thousand bucks under your bed will be a thousand bucks ten years from now. Aaaand if you account for inflation, the amount of money you hide under your bed will be worth significantly less. I mean it’ll still be a thousand bucks don’t get me wrong, but the amount of buying power a thousand dollars will have in the future is significantly less than it is today. So when we talk about getting rich slowly, we’re talking about slowly accumulating wealth over time and having that wealth you do manage to save actually grow (beyond inflation). Otherwise, it’s really not growing at all, and you’re just as poor as you were yesteryear. Inflation is of course the increase of prices on shit. Inflation is the reason you hear grandpa say “Back in my day, you could get a loaf of bread and a liter of soda for a nickel!” When getting rich slowly, you have to account for inflation. In other words, your wealth has to gain more value than shit will cost in the future.  So uhh...just save money? With that said, you may just jump to the conclusion “Oh, well if I just save money in my savings account, I can get rich eventually!” Well, yeah...and no The goal is not to save money but to accumulate wealth. Saving money is an important part of “getting rich slowly”, as we’ll get to, but it’s sort of just the bread and butter. The meat and potatoes of this whole slowly but surely wealth growing process we’re talking about is investing. Investing is putting your money in the right places so your money continues to make you even more money! But before we take a deeper look into that, let’s first talk about why saving money is not your direct pathway to getting rich. See, just like putting money under your bed, by putting it in a saving account, your buying power will be less in the future than it is today. The interest rate of a savings account is usually less than 1%, whereas the inflation rate is usually closer to 2%. Damn. I know. Maths. I hated math class too. So I’ll try and keep it simple. In layman’s terms, your money ain’t worth shit in a savings account. What that also means is that you’re going to have to aim to surpass the rate of inflation and then some if you want your wealth to actually GROW. You’re going to have to put that money (in the right places, the right assets) where the returns exceed the inflation rate and you can thus, actually freaking profit. In a nut shell, you have to understand that “saving” money does not increase your wealth. That sounds kinda screwy and probably completely contrary to everything you ever been taught about money. I’m sure your parents and your parents’ parents always gave you some sort of advice to “save your money”.  But the fact is, in real finances, ”saving money” is LOSING money to inflation. That’s where investing comes in. Benjamin Franklin once said “a penny saved is a penny earned” But he was WRONG! A penny INVESTED is a dollar earned. Now before I go further, I need to clarify something important, I am no financial expert. I’m just a dude who happened to learn a thing or two about money. I’m not offering you any sort of advice or anything. I’m just telling you what I learned. Just throwing this here as a little disclaimer. Take what I say with a grain of salt. Anyway, we’re going to talk about investing a bit but there’s something you have to take care of first before we even think of opening an investment account.  Have ZERO Money This is the biggest, most crucial (slow n’ steady) step you must take towards becoming rich slowly. Right off the bat, having “zero dollars” doesn’t seem like something you’d ever want. I mean certainly you want MORE than zero dollars, a lot more. But you can’t start making millions, yet alone positive numbers if you don’t first reach zero. As crazy as it sounds, having the net worth of ZERO DOLLARS is actually quite an accomplishment. Most people are in some sort of debt, whether that’s student debt, mortgage debt, health insurance debt, credit card debt, whatever sort of debt, people owe money to someone else. And what is debt? Negative money. And having negative money means your wealth can’t go up. It’s stuck going down...until you pay it off.  Having zero dollars doesn’t mean you're broke. Being in debt means you're broke! You can’t gain wealth if you don’t have any wealth. A lot of these debts have such high interest rates, especially something like a credit card debt which has a whopping 25-30% interest rate on average, sometimes up to 40% depending on the card. Since in order to get rich slowly you have to have your money work for you by growing over time, you’d need to make investments that exceed those high interest rates. Frankly, unless you’re some sort of suave expert stockbroker, that ain’t happening. The average stock market interest is 7%. So in other words, you’re better off paying off the debt FIRST then investing. Debt is not only slowing you down in getting rich, it’s actually backtracking you. The way interest works, the higher the debt is, the faster it accumulates, quite the reverse formula of growing your wealth. Every dollar you invest in something that pays lower interest than your debt cost or worse, every dollar you spend on something pointless is going to set you back and keep you in the negatives for much, much longer than you really need to be. Aim for zero money! After all, you can’t start getting rich if you owe money to somebody. You want to have money not IOU notes. Now we could probably chatter on and on about how exactly to go about paying off debts and which ones to focus on first, but for the purposes of this article, we’ll keep it short for now. That’s another topic for another day. INB4 “I’ll do it tomorrow”. The takeaway here, is that in order to build wealth you have to be at ground zero before going up. Okay so we got the fact that your debt needs to be eliminated first and foremost, the next step is to start investing. Now I know that might sound intimidating, but believe me, you don’t need to be any sort of financial guru to make a profit in the stock market. As a matter of fact...  Be BORING with your investments There’s this idea that in order to “strike it rich” with investments, you’ve gotta make some smart moves with your portfolio. You’ve gotta trade the right thing at the right time. But I want to introduce a little strategy to you, that works along the same vein of getting rich slowly called “Buy and hold”, or as the cryptonerds like to call it “HODL”. It’s basically putting your money into something and keeping it there, without touching it, or without, god forbid, day trading. Look, I’m lazy. I don’t want to sit there and trade stocks all day. I want to make money from the stock market and not have to fumble around trading back and forth for hours on end. I want to profit without much work. So what I recommend (again, my total non-expert dude opinion) is to invest in stocks you know are going to be around. How do you know they’ll be around (and make a profit)? Well, you can start by looking around. What’s in your house? What products are you using? Some of my favorite companies to invest in include Coca-Cola, Johnson & Johnson, McCormick (spices) and McDonald’s. Why? Well, these are companies that have been around. They have their product and it works. Yeah, they’re quote on quote “boring” but who gives af? They’re profitable and if the goal here is to make profit in the stock market then cha-ching baby! Invest in that shit. Everyone wants to buy “the next Apple.” Ya know, the startup company with cheap stocks that makes it big. But why not just...buy Apple? Being profitable in the stock market doesn’t mean making the right guesses. It means sticking to what you know. Sure, some people get lucky with their bets on small companies. Some people don’t. It’s all a gamble, really. I suppose you have better chances winning a wall street bet then you do at winning the lottery, but still. It’s much better to invest in companies you’re familiar with. Look at the companies you purchase products from and start form there. Plus, a lot of these “boring” companies offer what’s called dividends and dividends are basically profit the company makes and shares with you (hence why they call it a “share”, as you literally “share” ownership of the company,, a small fraction of it). It’s nothing huge, but it does add up. That on top of the interest (in share price increase) you’ll be earning makes for an easy steady way to make it rich. I recommend using Robinhood for purchasing stock and crypto too. It’s a pretty easy app. Not a lot of the fancy schmancy features of some of the other brokers, but if you want simple and you want lazy, this is where it’s at. Plus, it's fee FREE (a lot of brokers charge some sort of trading fee which can be quite a steep entrance fee to get started but Robinhood eliminates that shit) If you want, you can use my referral link and get a free stock once you sign up.  Save a little bit Now I know I mentioned earlier that saving money doesn’t actually earn you wealth, but when you look at wreath you look at the ability to be comfortable financially, and one of the things that would make me feel comfortable, and I’m sure you can agree with this, is being able to cover my ass when shti hits this fan. You have to have some savings. Now most of your assets are going to be stored in stocks so you can make it to retirement (the permanent vacation, baby!) but you need some sort of funds that are immediately available, something not held behind any sort of trading delay or anything. You need a “in case of emergency” fund. Like what if there is...I don’t know? A global pandemic! You have to be able to financially keep yourself afloat. Some people recommend having up to 6 months worth of living expenses tucked away in this sort of emergency fund. After over a year of this corona-pocalypse, I’d reckon that 6 months isn’t enough quite frankly. You need more like an entire year’s worth of income saved up. That said, you don’t want your savings to be your focus. Ideally, you want to build wealth as much as possible.So when it comes to allocating where you put your money, put a small percentage (maybe 1 or 2%) of your total income into savings and have between 30 and 50% dedicated to your investments, depending on your cost of living (rent, bills, etc.) As you can see, we’re getting into budgeting now. I’m not going to get too overly detailed here, but you should have a plan of where you decide to put your money and stick to it. You should be aware of just what exactly is going on with your money. Rich people account for every cent and that’s part of how they get rich. They don’t make impulse purchases. They spend frugally and budget efficiently. They’re not surprised when they look at their bank statement like you are. Like “OMG how do I only have 4 dollars in my account!?” The better you are at being decisive with you’re money, the easier it will be to have it grow. You can’t become rich if you have no idea what your money is doing or where it’s going. Procrastinate with purpose. Grow rich with purpose.  Let your Money Procrastinate
Don’t look at it. Don’t touch it. Don’t bother it. And most certainly DON’T SPEND IT! Spending digs you in deeper debt because instead of either paying off said debt or adding to your investment wealth, you’re throwing it away. Now I ain’t sayin don’t spend at all, but do so sparingly. Be the cheap lazy bastard that you are. You may be tempted to check up on your account, but DON’T. Set it and forget it. HODL. When it comes to the stock market, there’s spikes, there’s crashes, there’s surges and downfalls. Watching the stock market is like watching the weather form the window. It’s going to change every day. Thing is, over time, a long period of slow ass time, it WILL go up. Historically, it’s been proven. We’ve had the Great Depression. We’ve had COVID-19. We’ve had a lot of SHIT. And still, to this day, the stock market continues to climb. It does of course fall for a bit, but the overall trend is upwards. And that’s what you’ve got to keep in mind. You can’t panic when you see news headlines of “THE STOCK MARKET HAS CRASHED!” Don’t invest with your emotions. Invest with your money. Leave it alone and let it grow. Remember, there’s no rush to building your wealth and making it rich. You’ll get there…eventually. Take it easy, N8
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Finally! An article on how to make money from the ProcrastiN8r. It’s been a while.
Well… I’ll be up front. It’s not quite about making money per se but I promise you by the end of this little entry here, you’ll feel a lot richer than you have before. What is this? Click bait? TF? Not at all, my fellow ProcrastiN8r, you’ll soon see how to be richer, whether or not that actually includes making more moola. Before we get to that though, I’ll admit, when I first started creating content, the goal was to provide tips on how to make money online, the lazy way. And certainly, I covered everything from making money from your smartphone to making money from your computer and all things in between, with the idea that you didn’t have to leave the couch in order to build an income. You could leave your 9 to 5 job, throw out your three piece suit and lie around in jammies all day. Nice! But over time, it’s evolved into this...philosophy of sorts, the Lazy mindset, the idea of minimizing effort and maximizing results as well as taking it easy in all aspects of life. It became evident that making money passively was just the tip of the iceberg and there’s so much more about being lazy than that. See, making money is all well and good, don’t get me wrong. You want to be able to pay the bills and not have to schlep work for a belligerent boss for decades of your life. I get it. And believe me, on principle that’s what this is all about. This is all about freedom and financial freedom is certainly what we want to achieve; not having to worry about the question “How am i going to pay for this when I don’t have a job?” is the ideal. This is all about attaining satisfaction, satisfaction in knowing all is good. This is all about, well, being lazy and getting away with it. In other words, while making money from the couch is a part of it all, that only scratches the surface of creating a whole lazy LIFE. Now, I may of course get back to the roots of what this blog was all about to begin with, that is, how to earn an income from sitting on the couch all day...eventually. But today I want to dive into “What does it mean to be rich in the first place?” I mean here you are, looking up ways in which you can become rich without working hard, but what does that actually look like to you? Does it mean driving a ferrari to your mansion or sipping margaritas on your own private yacht? Or maybe it’s just living in an average home, nothing fancy, and not having to worry about how you’re going to pay the bills. Whatever it is, you have to realize that being rich, it’s all perspective and that’s something we’re gonna deep dive into today. I know I can feel your disappointment. Goddamnit, Nate! Just tell me how to make money the lazy way. And fine, I’ll give you this: Find a way to monetize the shit you already do. That’s really it. On principle. I promised you this wasn’t click bait. You want to integrate the moneymaking aspect of your life with your life itself. Don’t create a job. Create an income. That’s your goal. If you sit around playing video games all day. Monetize it. Start streaming. Write or record reviews. If you do nothing but eat food in your free time. Monetize it. Post up some food reviews. Create recipes people can follow online. Fact of the matter is, you like something. You just have to share how much you like it on the Interwebs. Build an audience and build trust to that audience. In doing so, you have to come to grips with the fact that you’re not gonna be making bank overnight. You’re not gonna have a huge crowd of people in a day. It takes time. It takes “eventually” to reach even a notable level of profit or notoriety. But since you’re doing the thing(s) you’d enjoy doing anyway, it doesn’t really matter how much time it actually takes because you’ll enjoy the process of making it happen and not just having it happen. In other words, you’ll be satisfied with each slow n’ steady step towards your goal and not just the moment you actually achieve said goal. Basically, don’t see what you’re doing as a “waste of time”.See it as an opportunity, an opportunity to make some cha-ching! And not to mention actually feel satisfied in yourself. Turn what you’re already doing in your lazy little routine into a profit making, happiness creating machine. It’s not about working hard. It’s about working smart. Anyway, after a bit of a long intro, without further ado...let’s dive right into it! What does it mean to be rich/wealthy anyway? It seems like the answer would be something obvious, like “to own a lot of resources.” You might think that’s a pretty solid definition right there, but it’s still not specific enough. I mean what amount is actually “a lot” and what “resources” are we talking about? The truth is, it’s all perspective. What may seem like a lot to one person, may be hardly anything to another. Having A/C to keep you cool during the summer or heat to keep you warm during the winter may not seem exactly “wealthy” to you or I that are living in a first world country where these kinds of luxuries are taken for granted, but for someone in a third world country, having a thermostat would be considered incredibly wealthy. Likewise, to a billionaire, owning half a dozen ferraris may be the equivalent to owning six packs of gum to the minimum wage worker. In a way, we measure wealth based on what we already have. When we think of the question “What is wealth?” We think to ourselves “more than this” as the answer. We have a fascination with the idea of “more”, don’t we? Always wanting more of one thing or another. What we have is never enough. We want the better house, better car, better phone, the list goes on and on. The dream of wealth is nothing but a fascination of wanting more perpetually. Even if you reach the level of financial success to call yourself “wealthy”, you wouldn’t feel that way. Like say now you own the garage fleet of ferraris, you’ve got that damned mansion with the Olympic-sized pool. You’ve got the Hawaain Punch water fountains. But there’s still something missing. You want more. You don’t feel wealthy enough. Even though you have the level of wealth you dreamed about, once you have it, it’s still not enough. It’s never enough. You can never feel simply satisfied with what you have. There’s always something missing, something MORE you want. If a millionaire complains about what his life is missing, it’s likely you’d want to say: “Bitch what you complaining about? You drive a freaking Mercedes” In a the same vein, a person living in a first world country with just a mediocre income, not rich by any means,complaining about something they’re missing, would have a third world country person tell them: Bitch, what you talking about? You have running freaking water. By desiring more, you fail to appreciate what you do already have. You don’t see the wealth of what you own, only that in which you do not. To put it simply, wealth is the longing for something that you don’t have. The idea of being “wealthy” is the idea of having the ability to attain some type of luxury or resource you currently don’t have access to. Again, it’s all perspective. What’s taken for granted for one person, may be a “rich luxury” for another. We place more value in things that are either lost or out of reach than we do over the things that we have in the present. To be *truly* wealthy is to be satisfied with what you have. Right here. Right now. There’s no dollar sign, no specific number, that you can ever reach that can bring you satisfaction. Like we said, once you hit that mark (wherever you place it), you’re just going to want an EVEN BIGGER number, an even bigger amount of wealth, an even bigger bank account. Thing is, you “can’t get no satisfaction” by trying to accumulate material things and trying to do so only leaves you feeling disappointed in the end. I mean just look at these celebrities and millionaires, buying things like $1000 pizza with their “F U money”. Their not satisfied with what they have and are endlessly seeking something grander and more expensive to purchase. It’s human nature to want more, get more, then want more again. They are simply following that nature. I’m not justifying or minimizing their greedy behaviors in any way. But in a way, they can’t help it. We’re all trying to “upgrade” our lives rather than enjoy it as is. In a sense, you’re just as greedy as that bastard billionaire. You just don’t happen to have as much “stuff”. And you may argue “Well I wouldn’t keep it all to myself. I’d be more charitable. I couldn’t own so many yachts when there are starving children on the streets!” But would you? Really? I mean, the wealth you have now, do you share it with those who need it more than you? Or do you indulge in rather selfish things? Think about it. Truth be told, you’re richer, financially speaking, than someone else. To the person living in a tent in the desert, you’re rather greedy for upgrading your phone, for example. While you have no concept of why someone would purchase a luxury vehicle, someone else has no concept as to why you would purchase a meal form GrubHub when you already have food in your fridge. Humble yourself and appreciate how rich you already are and I don’t mean just the material things you own either because... Money is NOT the only measure of wealth. Ask the average blue collar worker in America what it means to be rich and they’ll tell you “a large mansion, a fancy car, a yacht, and an Olympic-sized pool.” or something along those lines. Ask what a starving kid in Africa what it means to be rich and they’ll tell you “running water.” Ask Jeff Bezos, the quote on quote “richest” man on earth (a title that’s been juggling between him and Elon Musk), what it means to be rich, and he’ll tell you “having a successful marriage.” Oof! You see, money isn’t everything. Friendships, relationships, bonds and memories you share with another person, are all things that build your wealth. You could also have a wealth of knowledge. Donald Trump may be rich in money but he lacks a lot of knowledge. The same could be said for someone like Kim Kardashian. Plus her entire personality is what fashion and jewelry she’s wearing. Having a rich personality, rich relationships, rich knowledge, and rich goals makes you wealthier than any dollar sign you could obtain. Rather than trying to “strike it rich” by earning loads of cash, aim instead to become rich on things that have substance, true meaning. When you’re lying on your death bed, what are you going to want? Are you gonna want to look at your bank statement one last time? Are you gonna wanna take a spin in your latest ferrari just once more? Are you going to want to take a peek at your stock portfolio? Or maybe walk around your huge mansion in a final stroll? No. Of course not. You’re going to want to be around the people you love. You’re going to want to see the faces of those that care about you. And that’s what matters. I could go on and on about how to make money online doing this or how to make money online doing that, but none of that truly matters. I’d hate to break it to ya, but it just doesn’t. Money is just a number. And while money can’t buy happiness, enough of it can certainly make you worry about a lot less things. But that’s the key: Enough. You only need enough to eat and have a place to sleep. Bare minimum. Anything else is a wealthy expense. It’s a distraction, a discretionary purchase. You have to ask yourself what do you really NEED to buy.? How much money do you really NEED? And maybe that’s the point of why you came here. Because you NEED money to pay your bills and you’re looking for a way to make that happen without grinding your ass off 9 to 5. Just keep in mind the wealth you already own. Focus on what you do have, not what you lack. After all, someone else lacks what you have. You may not be rich with what’s inside your wallet, but you can be rich with what’s inside your heart. Embrace yourself. Embrace your laziness. Take it easy and relieve yourself of the pressure to earn a certain amount of money in order to become rich. Materialism is bullshit. It doesn’t bring satisfaction. What does bring satisfaction is inner peace and meaningful relationships. As many tips as I could offer to earn a paycheck from the couch, not one of them is going to help you make “enough” to feel satisfied. That’s something that comes from within. The lazy way is to do “just enough”. So earn just enough money to actually *feel* rich. And perhaps, as you lie there, lazily on your couch, daydreaming of all the great aspects present in your life right now, you’ll soon realize that the amount of money you actually NEED is zero. You can feel rich. You can feel plentiful. Without owning even a single material asset. All you ever need, you already have. To want more is greedy and being greedy is not the lazy way. Being, having, and appreciating “just enough” is the way of the sloth. If you are satisfied with less, then certainly you can be satisfied with more. But if right now you are NOT satisfied with the less that you have because you think you need or want more, then you won’t be satisfied once you get it. A poor man who is satisfied will be happy when he’s rich (with a lot of money). A poor man who is unsatisfied will never be rich enough, will never stuff their wallet enough. If you can be happy while piss ass broke, then you can be happy when you’re makin’ it rain. Money isn’t going to fix your unhappiness. It’s not the cure to make you feel better. When you don’t care what you own or what you drive or where you live, money becomes a compliment to your life, not the center of it. Be center within yourself and you’ll find all the riches in the world are already there. Take it easy, N8 In order to embrace your laziness, you have to take the easy way out. And the easy way out, when it comes to attaining goals is to go ahead and, well, actually attain it.
Woah, wait, hold up now! I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking how can it possibly be lazy at all to work towards a goal? Wouldn’t it be more lazy to just quit it and forget about it than actually put in effort towards... something? True, true. I mean, working towards a goal is a lot more hard work than lying around doing nothing...or at least it seems that way, on the surface. It seems like “taking the easy way out” has nothing to do with any sort of productivity. But just because you manage to be productive doesn’t mean you aren’t being lazy. In fact, you are at your laziest when you can be productive without trying really hard to do so. That’s sprezzatura, baby! It’s all about minimizing effort and maximizing results. That’s laziness at its core. Doing a lot without the “try hard”. And let me tell you. By giving up on a goal, you are not, absolutely NOT minimizing effort. You are, quite conversely, putting in a shit ton of effort. You are putting in a huge amount of “try”. Let’s face it, in giving up, you already put in effort into that goal. All of which is gone to waste the minute you say “I’m done”. All effort, no results. You’re left with the aching feeling of what “could be” had you just pushed yourself a little further. Ah yes, push a little further. Not something ya wanna hear as a lazy procrastin8r. But when I say push further I mean to take it just one simple step at a time. I don’t mean strenuously drive forward in a speedy motion. Be Slow, Smooth, and Deliberate. Embrace your inner sloth Do or do not. There is no try. “Trying” means working hard. “Doing” means taking it easy and just going with the flow. See, cause when you give up on a goal it's not just like you say “Ah, okay, I give up.” and call it a day. No. It’s not that simple or straightforward. At least if the goal is anything even remotely worthwhile. You’re going to guilt yourself. You’re going to feel your own shame. You’re going to pity yourself in feelings of woe and despair as you regret NOT doing said goal. You’re going to torture yourself through remorse nearly endlessly. You’ll regret not doing it, not going for it, not seeing it through to completion. And that takes a lot more effort to deal with than it takes to deal with moving forward in your goal. Not to mention, you can’t give up on something that you haven’t even started. Otherwise, that would mean you simply decide not to do it. You can’t “give up” on losing weight if you haven’t even made an attempt to exercise or eat healthy at all. Giving up, through its very nature, implies that there is something in which you have or in which are are doing that you are going to cease or get rid of. It is halting the progress of something completely. You don’t “give up” a goal that you haven’t made any progress on. You simply choose not to do it. If, for example, you’ve been wanting to learn a new instrument, but keep putting it off and putting it off, procrastinating if you will, never picking up the guitar or whatever, yet alone learning to strum a chord, it’s not that you “gave up” on it, it’s that you made the decision not to. Maybe you just “couldn’t help it”. You couldn’t help putting off learning guitar because you’re too quote on quote “lazy”. You sort of chose not to start the goal on a whim. Here’s the thing: You’ve procrastinated without a purpose. You’ve become what I like to call Impulsively Idle - that’s when you don’t consciously make the decision on what to procrastinate on but rather just let it happen...on impulse. It’s not that you shouldn’t procrastinate at all, it’s that you must procrastinate on shit that ain’t worth your time. Now if there is a goal that you believe IS worth your time, yet you’re sittin’ around procrastinating on it. That is Impulsive Idleness. You’re putting off something important to you and that’s no bueno. You must learn to procrastinate on the unimportant things to you so that you can focus on that which is important. If you started playing guitar, only to stop after learning one or two songs, that would be giving up because you made progress in your goal of learning to play guitar, only to put it to a full stop after a few lessons. The moment you halt progress is the moment you give up. Whether or not you do actually make any progress on a goal, that is, whether or not you choose to start it in the first place, whether or not you give up or procractive Impulsive Idleness, you're bound to face the ugliness of guilt. Guilt of not pulling through. Guilt of not even starting. The thing is, lying around doing nothing, instead of working towards that goal you have, is in fact doing something. It is in fact putting effort towards something. Upon giving up a goal, you’re putting effort towards going through all seven stages of grief. You’re putting effort towards convincing yourself, your own damn mind, that stopping any and all progress you made or could make is okay (hint: it’s not and you know it). And that’s a lot of work, dude. Your goal, unless it’s something you truly didn’t really care about in the first place, is something you’ve become emotionally attached to. It’s something you learned to admire and perhaps dream about. And just like the loss of someone close, someone you similarly admire, giving it up, losing the goal completely causes pain. It brings about grief. Literally. You’ll go through the denial and the bargaining and pleading. Like “oh I didn’t really want to lose that weight. I didn’t really want to learn to play guitar.” You’ll then get angry and blame something external like “goddamn the gym is too expensive!” or some shit. You’ll then feel sorry for yourself. And hit a “oh woe is me” stage. It’s grief though. Giving up a goal causes grief. While it’s possible to mourn over it, it really ain’t worth the (emotional) effort), man. Why put yourself through grief when you can be happy with what you’re doing instead? Certainly, dealing with grief is a good skill to have and definitely possible (which maybe we’ll talk about in a future post…eventually), but unnecessary grief is NOT okay. You shouldn’t put yourself through those seven levels of hell, ahem err, seven stages of grief, if you don’t have to. There are particular circumstances that are unavoidable, things in which you can’t control. A pet dies, you get into a car accident, some random kid smashes your front porch lamp, ya know shit like that. It’s possible those things can cause grief, or at the very least stress. Dealing with grief and stress takes energy, a LOT of energy, and anything that takes energy must be avoided as much as possible to a lazy man. You can’t control certain situations, but the ones you can, you should take advantage of by doing the lazy thing of avoiding stress and grief that comes about if you instead choose to give up. It’s in your control, it’s within your choice, on whether or not to give up or remain Impulsively Idle on a goal, so it goes to say that in that particular circumstance, you dictate whether you have to put the boulder on your shoulder so to speak, or lean back and relax, going with the flow. You should save your energy to deal with stress and grief on the things OUTSIDE of your control. Stressing yourself out or making yourself grieve over something completely WITHIN your control is not only unlazy of you to do, it’s, frankly, quite insane! Although you may not be putting effort into the goal itself, you are putting effort into avoiding that goal...as wacky as that sounds. But it does take effort on your part to let go of a goal. Effort in which could be used to complete said goal or better yet, make PROGRESS. There really is no benefit towards giving up the goal other than the fact that you don’t have to do it anymore. I suppose “less responsibility” could be seen as an advantage and one could argue that responsibility does in fact cause stress. I suppose either way there’s going to be a bit of stress, maybe a bit of grief. There are going to be negative feelings involved no matter if you give up on a goal or continue making progress. But I reckon guilt is a lot more stressful to deal with than responsibility. Take the easy way out. Take the lazy path and take responsibility rather than guilt. If, say, you are able to let go and not give a fuck, then it probably wasn’t really that important of a goal to begin with. It probably isn’t worth your time or effort anyway, so let it go and continue not giving a fuck. However, if you find it difficult to simply “give up”. If you feel like you’re sort of mourning over the loss of someone near and dear by giving up a goal, then you have to realize that it’s something actually worth doing. By far, worse than letting others down is the feeling of letting yourself down. You know a goal is truly important if you feel disappointed in yourself, as opposed to fearful of someone else’s disapproval if you choose not to do it. That’s how you know it’s something you must abide by, like the Dude. Disapproving of yourself is NOT lazy at all. Heck, you don’t want a boss who berates you for “not doing your job”, so why do it to yourself? Hold yourself accountable. Take responsibility; it’s a heck of a lot easier (and not to mention less stressful) than dealing with self disappointment and self rejection. Insecurity stems from your own inability, no, your own REFUSAL to make progress towards a goal that you find important. The key to confidence is taking slow n’ steady action, slow n’ steady progress towards what you find to be important. Otherwise, you feel like you’re not good enough. You feel you’re not good enough because you’re not being your real self, your big self, the real you and all the potential you can reach. Embracing your laziness means embracing yourself. It means embracing the opportunity to move forward, ever slow and ever stead, towards becoming your ideal self. Any goal that you can simply “give up” or procrastinate on with purpose, without taking a second look is not part of who you truly are and what you’re all about. But any goal that has you regretting not reaching for it, is exactly what defines you and you need to make it happen. Don’t give yourself a reason to be disapproving towards yourself. Do the thing that you deep down approve of. Do the thing that you are proud of, the thing that you can say to yourself, in a mini celebration that yes, you did it! Do...you! In short, a goal you care about is much easier to do than to give it up and also a lot more rewarding. You’ll feel not only accomplished and proud of yourself but also joyful and that’s maximizing results, baby! Last week, we covered how the lazy man doesn’t give up on his goals. Instead, he gets there...eventually. After all, it’s a helluva lot more work, emotional energy to deal with the guilt of not completing your goal than it is to actually, ya know, do it. But the question is: how do you go about completing your goals? How does one actually “make it happen”? I mean it’s one thing to know not to give up. It’s another to know how to move forward in your goal or project. You can tell yourself not to give up all you want, but that doesn’t really matter does it, if you’re not making progress? Progress is key to goals, not necessarily “getting there”. Progress is what you do with a goal, instead of giving up. Progress is “eventually.” Eventually you’re going to be where you want to be. Eventually you’re going to do what you set out to do. Anything can be accomplished through progress, through the procrastin8r mindset of “eventually”. If you’re looking for the cliche advice to go in no holds barred and to work your ass off, then that’s not what I’m about to tell you. Nor am I to tell you that it’s “all or nothing”. Nah, that’s not what I do, that’s not what I’m about. I’m lazy as fuck, just like you. And I reject the notion that exerting a lot of effort is necessary for success, so any sort of advice that conveys some sort of “go all out” message is wrong in my book. You don’t have to go all the way with a goal. In fact, that completely defeats the entire purpose of a goal. A goal at its very core is slowly, yet surely leveling up and getting better over a long period of time, until you EVENTUALLY get to where you want. It doesn’t happen instantly and certainly disciplining yourself to There’s no point in having a finish line if you’re not taking (slow n’ steady) steps to get there. Put it this way: something is okay. Something is better than nothing. Half ass is better than no ass. The way you must approach goals, the way you must approach anything really, is patiently. Patiently through progress. It’s not so much about the destination but the journey. That is to say, the progress is more important than the goal itself. A big reason as to why you would want to give up your goal is because you simply aren’t patient enough. You have this idea (that’s frankly been fed to you) that you either gotta make it or break it, ya know, all or nothing sort of thing. You want that immediate gratification of achieving your goal, without actually making the progress to attain it. In a world where you can order literally anything at the click of a button and have it delivered to your doorstep in as little as a few hours, we’ve developed a bit of an expectation to just get things RIGHT AWAY. But good things don’t come right away. Good things aren’t immediate. Good things are slow to come. When it comes to goals, immediate is not only ineffective, it’s less satisfying. Most people who win the lottery wind up broke within a few months. Statistical fact. That goes to show that the accomplishment itself means shit. It’s not about what you achieve, it’s about how you get there and what you learn along the way. Lucky little Lottery winners got the immediate goal accomplished of getting rich, only to blow it all away soon after. But a person who takes his time to build that wealth is unlikely to be such a spendthrift. That’s because they took the time to make progress in becoming financially suave and in doing so manage to develop the knowledge and skills necessary to make strong economic decisions. Having a goal handed to you immediately, like winning the lottery -- It’s like skipping to the last chapter of the book, without getting the full story. You don’t know what’s going on or who any of the characters are. You have to take your time to read all the chapters leading up to the conclusion in order to really “get the most” out of the book. Likewise, you have to build your own story, go through the journey, take the path of progress in order to “get the most out of” a goal. In setting yourself to either hit the goal now or never, you’re always going to be falling short, or at least feel that way, simply due to the fact that you’re not “it” yet. But that’s okay. Look, it’s okay to be in the process. It’s okay to be in the making. Stars aren’t born. They’re made (literally by plasma but we won’t get too scientific here). Take your slow ass time to get to where you want, man. There’s no rush. No hurry at all. Besides even if you did somehow (through a series of very fortunate luck) manage to achieve your big goal suddenly, you wouldn’t be prepared to maintain it, just like a lottery winner isn’t prepared to maintain their own sudden wealth bestowed upon them. You know not to give up. The next step is to, well, take a step. Always take a step. Always move forward. . Aim for progress not perfection. You don’t want to exert more energy than you have to in grieving over a loss (of a goal). You don’t want to create your own loss, which is why you choose to pursue a goal in the first place. You avoid the guilt of not doing it. I mean not only do you avoid a loss but you also create a win (by achieving said goal) In the same vein, you don’t want to exert more energy than you have to in pushing to overcome a goal as quickly as possible. Take your time. Slow n’ steady wins the race. Oh and be comfortable with mistakes. Making a mistake doesn't MAKE you a mistake. The harder you try to push, the harder you’re going to fall and the harder you’re going to be tempted to give up. And if you choose to give up, the harder the regret will be to deal with. You’re here because you want to take the easy way out. You’re here because you want to be lazy and get away with it. So I tell you this: don’t put hard work on yourself unnecessarily. Make progress towards your goal and don’t ever, ever give up. After all, after reading this, I’m sure you’ll feel a lot more guilty if you do. Live life as a perpetual "eventually". Eventually is better than never. Take it easy, N8 It’s the New Year and of course, right around now you here the cliche phrase of “New Year. New Me.”....only to wind up giving up on whatever sort of big goal they set out to achieve just a few short weeks later.
I already dived into how New Year’s Resolutions are bullshit last week and today I want to clarify that it’s not so much bullshit to make a goal for the year in the first place. It’s bullshit to give up on it. You shouldn’t make a goal that you’re going to give up on. Ever. (And doing so is bullshit) Now I get it. I mean it’s so easy to give up. And believe me, as a lazy man, I’m always looking to take “the easy way out.” Goal-getting is no exception. You’re trying to reach a goal and things just aren’t going the way you wanted or expected. It seems like a lot more effort than you’re capable of, one could say “impossible”, so what do you do? Say “fuck it” and leave it on the shelf, never to be picked up again. You tried to find a date and keep getting rejected. You tried to play guitar and can barely hold a chord for more than a few seconds. You tried to lose weight and end up in the drive-thru at McDonald’s. Giving up. Seems like the lazy thing to do. No doubt. It makes sense that throwing in the towel and lying on the couch would be quite lazy. But, you gotta look beyond the surface. While giving up certainly removes the effort of having to actually do the thing you set out to do, in turn, it creates an even heavier burden, it creates even more effort than the initial goal had to begin with. See, in giving up on your goal, which is seemingly the lazy thing to do, you are introducing a little devil in your life and that devil is called guilt. Guilt is basically “feeling bad” for not doing something. It’s self-induced shame, where you condemn your own self. You attack yourself with insulting thoughts and words. You tell yourself that you suck, that you’re just not good enough, that you aren’t worthy. You become your own biggest critic when you feel guilty about something. You become your worst hater. Guilt is a burdensome emotion to deal with and quite frankly more energy depleting than actually just pulling through and completing your goal anyway. So you decide to quit your goal of losing weight. Now you feel guilty for being a fat fuck. So you decide to quit your goal of finding a partner. Now you feel guilty for being “forever alone”. So you give up your goal to start a business. Now you feel guilty for being a work slave at a desk job. Guilt is fucking draining man. You beat yourself up, constantly berating yourself about one thing or another that you should’ve done or could’ve done. There’s a little voice inside your head that won’t shut up and keeps reminding you of how terrible you are for what you did or failed to do. The more you try to silence it, the louder it speaks to the point where it’s SCREAMING. It’s shouting at you about just how just fucking awful you are for not doing such n’ such or for doing so n’ so completely WRONG. It’s been said time and time again within the content of my blog and podcast that laziness is all about minimizing effort and maximizing results. And look, if you choose not to go through with a goal and put yourself through guilt instead, you’re putting yourself through more effort than necessary. A lot more. The amount of work it takes to tear yourself up for not doing the thing you said you’d do iis extreme. And what are the results? Feeling ashamed of yourself? Ain’t worth the effort man. Either do your goal or don’t. But either way, don’t complain about it. If you want to quit smoking, then either quit or keep lighting up. Don’t be one of these “non-smoker smokers' ' that always bitch and moan about how they can’t quit even though they’re trying to and it’s so addicting and blah blah blah blah blah as they're chainsmoking two packs a day. Cease it, sister! You’re fighting against yourself for no reason. You’re making the goal (in this case, quitting smoking) even harder than it actually needs to be. Don’t make a goal just to complain about how you aren’t fulfilling said goal later. Make a goal and stick to it. That is minimizing effort and maximizing results. That is lazy. It takes a hulluva lot more effort to feel guilty and beat yourself up about it than it does to actually... do it. I know, I know “do it” doesn’t seem to be very lazy at all. But you literally can’t do nothing. The fact is, you have to do something. You have to put effort into one thing or another. That much is unavoidable. It’s a matter of choosing how you invest that effort (and ideally, if you’re being lazy, putting in as little effort as possible while getting the biggest results). When it comes to goal-achieving, you can either put effort towards your goal or put effort into struggling with the guilt of not doing your goal. I reckon the latter is a lot more work. I mean I don’t want to deal with a boss yelling at me telling me what I should do, yet alone my own inner thoughts. Besides, just take a look at our spirit animal. The sloth is a persistent motherfucker. He doesn’t give up easily, no! He climbs that tree, slow n’ steady, reaching the top (of his goal) eventually. He knows giving up takes a lot of energy. It takes a lot of energy to deal with the guilt associated with that. So he don’t do that shit. He keeps climbing, ever forward, ever slowly, knowing he’ll get there...eventually. Eventually is the way of a true procrastin8r, not giving up. Embrace your inner sloth and keep climbing to the heights of your goal. Don’t put yourself through the inner turmoil of guilt. Be patient. Let success come later. You have to be okay with the fact that you’re not gonna reach your goal right away. You’re not gonna accomplish what you set out to do overnight or even over the span of a few short weeks or months for that matter. But just because it won’t happen today or any time soon doesn’t mean you can’t make progress tomorrow. Ah, tomorrow, the favorite date of a procrastin8r. Things can and will come in due time. You just gotta keep telling yourself “tomorrow it will happen.” Take it one day at a time, one step at a time. Don’t rush to the finish line that’s miles away. And realize this. Realize that you’re probably gonna back track a bit. Bluntly, you’re gonna fuck up. Humble yourself and be willing to make that fuck up once in a while. After all, mistakes are meh. It’s better to fuck up then to try to hold up your pride. It’s okay to be an idiot. You can always learn from mistakes. You can’t learn anything from giving up. Once you give up, that’s it. It’s over. Progress is put to a complete halt. But the guilt will haunt you for the rest of your life. You’ll be lying on your death bed, hoping, wishing, longing for something different, some kind of change, but by then it’ll be too late. It’s better late then never, a mindset of a true procrastin8r. It’s better to attain your goals eventually, much LATER, than it is to give up be lying on your death bed wishing you hadn’t. Take your time, man. Be persistent. Go after what you want, slow n’ steady. It may seem like a lot of hard work, a lot of effort, to being going after what you want, but just remember it’s a lot more strenuous to carry the burden of guilt or regret for the rest of your life than work towards a goal for a few years. If you are going to give up on a goal, you have to accept your loss. Now I wouldn’t go as far as to say “don’t EVER give up.” As a matter of fact, I talked about before how you should be a quitter and know when to quit. Not all things are worth your time. For example, let’s say you want to find a romantic partner, but the person you’re currently dating is a rather shallow and toxic person or maybe you two just aren’t compatible. You’d be maximizing effort by trying to keep together a relationship that’s fundamentally broken, while minimizing results of being in an unhappy relationship. Sometimes you gotta know when to quit. “Ya gotta know when to fold.” (cue Kenny Rogers). There are certain situations that are, well for lack of a better phrase, worth giving up on. It’s at that point though, you have to cut your losses and move on. Don’t bitch and whine about it. Don’t live in guilt or regret. Accept the cons of not pursuing your goal along with the pros. Every decision you make, especially when it comes to giving up, there is gonna be a good side and a bad side to it. Be purposeful in your decision and don’t look back. Procrastinate with purpose, fam. Just remember in giving up one thing, you are in turn, choosing to keep another. By giving up your weight loss goal, you are in turn choosing to eat the foods you like. By giving up the foods you like, you are in turn choosing to pursue your weight loss goal. You see, there’s always a bit of a balance to the scale. I suppose the overall message where, what I’m trying to get at is don’t give up on the things you’d regret giving up later. I mean think about, using the weight loss example, would you feel more guilty/regretful over developing chronic health problems or not being able to eat exactly what you want all the time? I’m not here to tell you which one to choose. That’s for you to decide. What seems like more effort for you to deal with? Choose the path of least resistance. Choose the lazy path. Either way, you have to accept the consequences of your decision. You can’t make a decision based solely on the benefits you receive, because, I mean, let’s face it, there’s rarely ever a decision that is benefits versus benefits. There is usually some sort of drawback (or drawbacks) that come included with each set of benefits. You want to aim to make the decision that gets you to think “well, that would suck giving up that other thing, but I wouldn’t totally regret it either.” Accept your loss. Remove the guilt. If you want to eat whatever you want, accept the consequences of being fat. If you want to lie around the house all day, accept the consequences of never having a real job. Another thing too, acceptance is NOT approval. By accepting the consequences you face, you don’t (or very shouldn’t) need other people to feel the same way. Haters gonna hate. You have to accept that too. Just because you accept who you are and the decisions you make doesn’t mean other people will You don’t automatically gain approval just because you accept yourself. Just because you don’t feel guilty of the life choices you make, doesn’t mean other people won’t attempt to make you feel guilty. Ya know there’s this whole “fat positive” movement. The premise is that people should find beauty in all shapes and sizes. Okay I can agree with that, to a certain extent. Bullying or insulting someone because of their weight is both immature and unacceptable. But they want to eliminate fat shaming. Fat “shaming”? Shaming is actually an effective social tactic to discourage bad behavior...in the same way we shame pedophiles and dog abusers There are certain behaviors that are shameful because they cause harm (either to yourself or others). Those behaviors should be shamed. Now again, I’m not justifying any sort of harassing or anything. That is harm within itself. What I am saying though is that they should expect some sort of shame because what they’re doing to their body is fundamentally unhealthy. I realize this is a touchy subject and there’s no way I’m getting out of the lion pit alive by bringing it up and I know I’m about to get the rage of haters throwing “but it could genetic”, but even so, making your food pyramid different fast food restaurants probably doesn’t help. The fact of the matter is, these people aren’t happy with their bodies. They feel guilty for being unhealthy and looking fat. I mean it’s one thing to feel confident in yourself no matter what you look like. It’s another to say “You MUST think I’m beautiful.” You should feel comfortable in your own skin, but you can’t change what people find beautiful. Some people will find you gorgeous, others quite ugly. That’s sort of a metaphor in life. Some people are gonna love the shit out of you, others will hate your guts. Where one crowd will cheer for you, another will boo you off stage. You can’t base your level of self esteem on how well you are liked and approved by others. Sooner or later, you’ll have to come to the realization that no matter how much you think you deserve to feel beautiful, the responsibility to feel that way is on you. These fat positive people are making society responsible for their own feelings of guilt. They feel guilty for not losing weight and choosing the instant gratification of ice cream and pizza instead. What I’m saying is, it’s cool whatever you want to do, but the minute you try to enforce people to approve of your ways and approve of what you give up (eg. healthy eating and exercising) is the minute you’ll get criticized. You can’t say “I’m this way ,so you have to like me.” You have to say “I’m this way, like it or not.” Confidence is an inner personal thing that the rest of society can’t be hold accountable. If you’re feeling guilty for enabling certain habits, it’s not the responsibility of everyone else to make you feel less guilty. Acceptance is your own responsibility. Just because you can’t accept yourself, doesn’t mean you should place that burden on others. When you accept yourself, as well as the things you’ve given up, it doesn’t matter whether or not others do. Approval is totally unnecessary if you’re fully and completely comfortable in your own skin. If you need a whole campaign to tell you you’re beautiful “no matter what size”, then the truth is, you don’t really believe you’re beautiful at all. Thing is, the people that felt confident and beautiful didn’t need any sort of fat positive moment to elicit those feelings. They just felt that way anyway. It’s the people lacking self esteem that need any sort of “positivity” moment. Genuine confidence is an internal game, not an external factor like approval. One could argue, I suppose that the reason they lack self esteem is because of the fat shaming. But I want to throw you this: SMOKERS make fat shaming null and void. Like you don’t see smokers parading around with signs that say “ Black Tarred lungs are beautiful too”. And certainly, there are tons of messages, research, and PSAs saying “Smoking can KILL you.” Every smoker I know, myself included, isn’t completely oblivious to the fact that smoking is bad for you. Smokers know the risks. They know the hazards. They just don’t care. They don’t give a fuck. Smokers know what they’re doing is bad for them, but they’re not out there trying to convince people that coughing is cool. They just accept the shame that’s brought onto them. You see they gave up a healthy heart and respiratory system in exchange for a brief calming of their nervers, but they’re not trying to make society at large feel guilty about that decision in the same way “pleasantly plump” people do about their eating habits. Anyway, what I’m saying is, the point I’m trying to get at is quite simple. Don’t give up on your goals. And if you do, don’t bitch and moan about it or expect other people not to shame you for it. Don't torture yourself through guilt or allow others to make you feel that guilt. Relax man, just do whatever makes you happy. And that’s the lazy way. |
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