You’ll say to yourself “This is it. This is the year I change. It’s the start of a new decade and the start of a new me.”
Fast forward about a month or two...
You’ll be laying on the couch, watching Netflix or playing Nintendo Switch eating pizza and Flaming Hot Cheetos, in between long ass naps.
Your big New Years Resolution is nothing but a crumpled up piece of paper on the floor, or maybe you didn’t even take the time to write what it was you wanted to accomplish in the new year in the first place, but either way, that goal is abandoned and long forgotten about.
You might’ve tried to go after it, at least for a while. Maybe a few days or few weeks.You tried to change yourself into the “new me”, but ultimately wound up right back in the comforts of your same old lazy routine., not living up to those ideals you had in your head.
You set out to lose weight or build your career or maybe even build stronger relationships and friendships. You strived to make something new within yourself. But the only thing “new” you managed to introduce in your life is the Netflix series you started to watch or video game you picked up.
You haven’t changed much at all, yet alone in the big elaborate way you promised yourself to do in 2020 and there you lie on the couch, disappointed in yourself and feeling like a failure.
Well, I want to offer you a bit of comfort, more than that feathery pillow you lie on, and here it is:
Quit your bitchin’!
STFU and stop complaining. For real man. Just relax and abide by your own way of doing things currently.
I mean, I’m not gonna encourage you to get your ass up and hop back on track to your goal. No. What I am gonna tell you though is that you have to accept who you are, laziness and all, before setting out to make any ridiculous changes to your habits or routine.
Don’t feel bad about your laziness and instead, embrace it. Seriously, be lazy. Just don’t sit there and “mope” about it. Feel good for choosing to splurge on pizza instead of practicing a healthy diet. Love the fact that you binge Netflix instead of reps at the gym.
Be proud of what you already do...or don’t do for that matter. Be proud of who you *already* are...and how damn lazy you are.
Be comfortable on *your own* couch and don’t try to build a new one. That’s a lot of intense labor. Lay back n’ chill.
Be happy you know how to take it easy and totally engulf yourself in leisure, allowing yourself a break from work.
Every year people try to make a big “new year, new me” transformation
And every year I remind you that New Year’s Resolutions are bullshit. You’re not gonna transform. You’re not gonna change. You’re not gonna achieve that BIG 2020 goal....and that’s completely okay.
You have to take the attitude of “I’m always going to be this way. I’m always going to be a lazy ass.” and I don’t mean in a “oh woe is me. I’ll never amount to anything” sort of way, but in a “Hell yeah, I love doing nothing!” sort of way.
You have to accept your current circumstances and personal attributes before trying to transform it or whatever. Have some self esteem, damnit!
Once you accept who you truly are, only then can you begin to make changes.
The reason you aren’t able to attain your New Years Resolution, and why I call it bullshit, is because this goal is usually NOT congruent with your current identity, who you are in the present.
You see yourself as a lazy sack of shit and are trying to make goals of a marathon runner. It ain’t gonna work, bud.
It’s like trying to give a Water Gun TM to Charmander. He’s fire type and can’t learn that type of move. Likewise, you can’t learn or accomplish things that don’t match your “type” of person.
So since you’re a Slaking (spiritually), teach yourself Rest. You’ll be able to actually do that and set yourself up for...wait for...it SUCCESSS!
Don’t set yourself up for the impossible and go try to attain something that, quite simply, isn’t in your nature.
The epiphany you’ll set yourself up to learn is [SPOILER ALERT]:
“Wow I can achieve what I want based on how I view myself.”
And that’s exactly the mindset you want to achieve. This allows you to “shift ”into a new set of beliefs about yourself and be able to achieve goals relevant to that new identity *naturally*
You become what you believe you are.
You achieve goals relevant to the role you believe yourself to be.
So if you see yourself as a lazy fat piece of shit, you’re achieve goals relevant to what a lazy fat piece of shit achieves, like eating a whole bag of Cheetos, a box of pizza, and a two liter Mountain Dew and watching an entire season on Netflix, because that’s what a fat lazy piece of shit does.
Likewise, if you see yourself as a healthy fitness lover, you’re going to achieve goals relevant to what a healthy fitness lover achieves, like going to the gym every day and eating a healthy diet.
I’m not saying you should choose one lifestyle over the other. Do what you want man. Be who want.
But play your role.
And play the one you currently chose for yourself. Realize that it was in fact a choice and you are free to “create your own character”
If you choose to be a warrior don’t get upset that you’re not casting meteor spells down from the sky. Swing your sword and strut around in your heavy plated mail armor with pride.
Just like your DnD character, know your IRL character’s abilities and limitations and don’t “try” to do something you can’t do in the “class” you chose.
I say you chose, because whether consciously or subconsciously, you told yourself words, you fed yourself thoughts, that made you *believe* everything you believe about yourself to be true, that made you believe you fit a certain role in life.
While you may not have been consciously aware of it at the time, you *chose* to attach yourself to certain words and principles and that is what built your current self, or idea of self.
You see because “self” is just an idea. You can change this idea of self to be...whatever you want it to be, man. It is not so much about changing your ways, but about changing your IDEAS. You are the creator of your own destiny. You write your own IRL character sheet based on the *ideas* you have in your head.
Basically, most of the work in goal achievement comes down to your own self perception, the class that you choose for yourself, the ideas you create. You don’t have to try a damned thing to achieve anything. It just sort of...happens.
While teaching the powers of the Force, Luke doubts himself about lifting a ship out of a swamp, Yoda famously says:
“Try not. Do or do not. There is no try.”
Luke didn’t *believe* he was a Jedi or master of the Force and thought didn’t have it in him to have the strength to lift the ship. He didn’t identify as the role that would allow him to accomplish the task with ease. He felt he had to “try” because he identified as a dude from the sand, not a Jedi.
Once he believed himself that he was in fact a Jedi, he was able to use the Force and lift the ship, with very little effort too I might add.
Nothing is difficult when you are what you need to be, when you identify as what you need to be and actually believe it, fully, within yourself. Remember, doubt is the essence of failure, so don’t doubt yourself dude.
It’s not about beliving “you can do it”. Rather, it’s about believing you already *are*.
If you believe you are not the type of person who exercises or eats healthy but “need to lose weight”, then you’re doubting that you are capable of doing so because you identify as a role that feels the need to “try”, rather than believing you are a fit person who can just do it *naturally* without any effort because it’s just a part of who you are.
No matter how much you believe you “can” lose weight, no matter how much you “try”, you won’t be able to achieve your goal because fundamentally you believe you are not that type of person. You don’t identify as someone who will achieve it and that sets you up for failure.
The phrase “Try-hard” used to describe someone implies that the person is not being genuine with who they are or who they see themselves as deep within. People easily pick up on this type of behavior and usually cringe at it.
If you’re trying to be more social, for example, that is the mistake within itself, because again, you are “trying”, rather than just “being”. Do or Do Not. There is no try.
You may go in with the approach of: “I am an awkward person trying my best to make friends”
Or you could say: “I am a calm confident person who easily make friends.”
See the difference?
In one, you identify as someone who isn’t capable of being charismatic, confident, and social.
You create the idea that you are awkward and unable to build rapport, at the very core. You put in effort to “try” and do something outside of the role you chose to play.
In the other, there is NO effort involved. Things just fall into place *naturally*. You are *already* someone who is likeable and builds friendships (or relationships for that matter) with ease. There’s nothing further to be done. There’s no improvement to make.The work takes care of itself.
See, your brain is like a machine that is set to run and perform whatever you program it to do. By telling it, “You are this”, then you’ll be the very thing you said you are and perform relevant actions and behaviors to that program.
You don’t have to do much. You’re like a pilot of a ship that can lean on back and drink coffee while the brain (ship) travels to where you set it to go.The process is very automatic and lazy as hell. You no longer “work hard” or “try your best” to achieve your goals, 2020 New Years Resolution, but just “let it be” and let it happen, without any strenuous work or effort on your part.
Feed your brain the right source code to match what you want to become, and chill in auto-pilot, rather than “trying” to drive in manual.
But before you can “re-write” this code. You have to go in, to the source, look deep inside yourself, and “read” how the code is already written.
You must understand yourself, accept it. Fully. You don't have to like it. But accept it, and do (or don’t do) the actions and behaviors that are a part of who you are in the present, not who you think you could be or should be or even want to be. Be who you are first. The change comes later. Later, like a true procrastinator.
Run the program that’s already in your brain
So you got Lazy Dude v. 3.14 software package installed, well then be lazy, embrace it, fully and completely. You’ll install an upgrade...eventually, when you get to it.
Take notice of the things you say about yourself. Examine the things that you manage to do, naturally, with little or no effort. Explore your inner thoughts and feelings.
Write them down. Or don’t ‘cause that might just be a little too much work for you at this point, but do at least be *aware* of your thought process and emotional experiences and how those thoughts and feelings are *congruent* with your words, behaviors, and actions.
You’ll see how the mental IRL “character sheet” you create directly determines
You think to yourself that you’re a lazy person. You idenitfy as a procrastinator. You then perform the action (or inaction I suppose) of spending all day in bed. There’s the congruence of your thoughts, your self belief and identity, with your actions.
You played the role of your a lazy person, which is exactly what is written on your “inner” character sheet you created. You ran the Lazy Dude v. 3.14 program within your brain and performed a day long nap without any effort.
Being consciously aware of how these thoughts reflect your behaviors allows you to begin to realize this one important dose of wisdom:
The inner becomes the outer.
That is, you only accomplish on the outside world what you think you *are* on the inside.
You set your own mental compass in the direction you will travel.
You’ll understand that self awareness (the self you believe yourself to be) is key to making external goals in your health, finances, or relationships come to life.
It is then, and only then, once you have this experience of seeing your thoughts manifest themselves into reality and understand this fundamental truth of the universe: that you are the creator, you can then have the power to think and manifest anything you desire by simply believing it’s who you are and that it already exists and is true.
You create for yourself your outer reality through your inner thoughts.
Attaining something comes from the belief that you already have it, rather than the feeling you must “try” to get it.
It must not come from a place of lack or scarcity, but of abundance. The Lazy mindset is an Abundance Mindset.
All you do is lay there, on the comforts of your couch or bed, and think about who you are and what you believe to be true about yourself. Your body will follow your mind. Your actions will flow along with your thoughts, in the lazy rive rof life.
By performing the very simple and lazy thought process of ….*imagination* you can begin to well *actually* make a new you.
Your brain is powerful af so let it do the work for you, rather than working hard yourself to try and attain any big ass goals in the next coming year.
Take it easy,